Ten Steps to Relapse
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: North Vancouver, British Columbia
Posts: 1,714
Ten Steps to Relapse
1. "Try" to quit.
2. Idealize life without smoking.
3. Associate your daily problems and disappointments with the fact that you’re not smoking.
4. Begin to buy into the idea that you’re more miserable now than before you quit.
5. Start responding to your problems with, "If this keeps up, I’m going to smoke" then add "anyhow" then add "so why suffer anymore?".
(Alternate 3-5:
3. Associate your success with the idea that you’ve licked the nicotine habit.
4. Begin to buy into the idea that you could smoke without getting hooked again.
5. Follow-up this idea with, "I haven’t smoked in ___ days/weeks/months/years" then add "I haven’t had any cravings" then add "I could have just one").
6. Buy, borrow or steal a cigarette.
7. Find a quiet, secluded place where you can be alone with the substance to which you have attributed all power and promise for fulfillment of your needs.
8. Feel yourself calming down even before you light up, which is actually the Nicodemon ceasing to scratch at your insides as you prepare to feed the addiction.
9. Light-up and suck in all the poison you can get in that first drag, while beginning the battle against being disappointed in yourself, noticing that this fight is not half as ferocious as it was to get the nicotine.
10. Within a few hits, feel dizzy, cough a little, smell the stink, and realize you’re not going to stop smoking that cigarette, you’ll keep smoking despite the bad feelings, and wish you hadn’t given in.
Author unknown
2. Idealize life without smoking.
3. Associate your daily problems and disappointments with the fact that you’re not smoking.
4. Begin to buy into the idea that you’re more miserable now than before you quit.
5. Start responding to your problems with, "If this keeps up, I’m going to smoke" then add "anyhow" then add "so why suffer anymore?".
(Alternate 3-5:
3. Associate your success with the idea that you’ve licked the nicotine habit.
4. Begin to buy into the idea that you could smoke without getting hooked again.
5. Follow-up this idea with, "I haven’t smoked in ___ days/weeks/months/years" then add "I haven’t had any cravings" then add "I could have just one").
6. Buy, borrow or steal a cigarette.
7. Find a quiet, secluded place where you can be alone with the substance to which you have attributed all power and promise for fulfillment of your needs.
8. Feel yourself calming down even before you light up, which is actually the Nicodemon ceasing to scratch at your insides as you prepare to feed the addiction.
9. Light-up and suck in all the poison you can get in that first drag, while beginning the battle against being disappointed in yourself, noticing that this fight is not half as ferocious as it was to get the nicotine.
10. Within a few hits, feel dizzy, cough a little, smell the stink, and realize you’re not going to stop smoking that cigarette, you’ll keep smoking despite the bad feelings, and wish you hadn’t given in.
Author unknown
Member
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Indianapolis, IN
Posts: 1
Your help is much appreciated, allthough I don't use many tools to battle the addiction. On May 1st I will celebrate one year of being nicotine free.
I am a well-practiced quitter, having quit three times prior to this during the course of my adult life, so quitting this time did not present as much of a challenge. ONly one thing made the difference: I am now 44 years old, so the stakes are truly much higher than before, I think. The one thing that made it possible for me was the simple act of placing my right hand over my heart and reminding myself that I get only ONE of what lays underneath. When your shoes finally wear out, you buy a new pair, right? Not necessarily possible with a heart. And the heart IS the big Kahuna, in my book. It, and the brain, are what make ALL life possible.
I am a well-practiced quitter, having quit three times prior to this during the course of my adult life, so quitting this time did not present as much of a challenge. ONly one thing made the difference: I am now 44 years old, so the stakes are truly much higher than before, I think. The one thing that made it possible for me was the simple act of placing my right hand over my heart and reminding myself that I get only ONE of what lays underneath. When your shoes finally wear out, you buy a new pair, right? Not necessarily possible with a heart. And the heart IS the big Kahuna, in my book. It, and the brain, are what make ALL life possible.
Member
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Watertown, WI
Posts: 1
A great reminder and I can really relate. I've been there many times. Thanks for posting this.
:wtf2I'm new to the site and having problems with getting on with being a non smoker. 4 months 6 days quit and still just feel very sad and upset all the time. Grieving. Why can't it stop? It's all in my head. Please help me.
:wtf2I'm new to the site and having problems with getting on with being a non smoker. 4 months 6 days quit and still just feel very sad and upset all the time. Grieving. Why can't it stop? It's all in my head. Please help me.
Member
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Traveling in Europe
Posts: 415
Hey check out WhyQuit - the Internet's leading cold turkey quit smoking resource if you have not already. It gives some great anti smoking propaganda. For me, its all the way I perceive it... If I feel like I am depriving myself of something that actually will help... I feel terrible, even after months of cessation. If I give up, admit that there is not one positive thing about my habit, and take it one day at a time, I don't struggle as much... Humbly about three weeks in
Best of luck,
Clayton
Best of luck,
Clayton
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
