First Time Asking For Help
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First Time Asking For Help
Hello,
This is my very first serious attempt to stop drinking. Generally I'm a shy person who cares about people's feelings very much. I become a completely different person when I drink, someone who is mean, angry, loud and obnoxious. Afterwards I feel terrible guilt and depression for days. I only drink 1-2 times a week but it's rarely only a couple of drinks, I always take it too far, its' almost binge drinking. So while I don't need to drink daily I still feel like I have a form of alcoholism. I'm considering finding AA meetings to attend but I'm very busy and can barely keep up so I'm hoping that this online forum can offer some support. Unfortunately my professional career revolves around wine, so I am very nervous that not drinking will change my life, my friends and work. I feel like I need to start all over and I'm not sure how. Thank you for any advice on how to tackle this.
This is my very first serious attempt to stop drinking. Generally I'm a shy person who cares about people's feelings very much. I become a completely different person when I drink, someone who is mean, angry, loud and obnoxious. Afterwards I feel terrible guilt and depression for days. I only drink 1-2 times a week but it's rarely only a couple of drinks, I always take it too far, its' almost binge drinking. So while I don't need to drink daily I still feel like I have a form of alcoholism. I'm considering finding AA meetings to attend but I'm very busy and can barely keep up so I'm hoping that this online forum can offer some support. Unfortunately my professional career revolves around wine, so I am very nervous that not drinking will change my life, my friends and work. I feel like I need to start all over and I'm not sure how. Thank you for any advice on how to tackle this.
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[QUOTE=soulsurviver;5664009]Hello,
This is my very first serious attempt to stop drinking. Generally I'm a shy person who cares about people's feelings very much. I become a completely different person when I drink, someone who is mean, angry, loud and obnoxious. Afterwards I feel terrible guilt and depression for days. I only drink 1-2 times a week but it's rarely only a couple of drinks, I always take it too far, its' almost binge drinking. So while I don't need to drink daily I still feel like I have a form of alcoholism. I'm considering finding AA meetings to attend but I'm very busy and can barely keep up so I'm hoping that this online forum can offer some support. Unfortunately my professional career revolves around wine, so I am very nervous that not drinking will change my life, my friends and work. I feel like I need to start all over and I'm not sure how. Thank you for any advice on how to tackle this.[/QUOTE
Hi Soulsurvivor-
Welcome to SR. You'll find a whole group of amazing and supportive people here that will give you tools and support. It's totally amazing. I didn't drink everyday, and I've only been sober for 20 straight, but everytime I meant to only have a glass or two I got drunk, and it was getting progressively worse over the last few years. I'm an alcoholic. It's a tough pill to swallow, but not everybody can drink like normal people. There is no shame in it, it's just something we learn to accept and deal with, in our own time.
I've gone to a few AA meetings and that was tough, but I now get most of my support here. I still try to go to meetings too because it's important to meet new people who live a sober lifestyle and are happy.
Anyway, you should check out the November class under newcomers. It's terrific, filled with caring people looking out for each other.
I hope you join us!
Best of luck,
KIR
This is my very first serious attempt to stop drinking. Generally I'm a shy person who cares about people's feelings very much. I become a completely different person when I drink, someone who is mean, angry, loud and obnoxious. Afterwards I feel terrible guilt and depression for days. I only drink 1-2 times a week but it's rarely only a couple of drinks, I always take it too far, its' almost binge drinking. So while I don't need to drink daily I still feel like I have a form of alcoholism. I'm considering finding AA meetings to attend but I'm very busy and can barely keep up so I'm hoping that this online forum can offer some support. Unfortunately my professional career revolves around wine, so I am very nervous that not drinking will change my life, my friends and work. I feel like I need to start all over and I'm not sure how. Thank you for any advice on how to tackle this.[/QUOTE
Hi Soulsurvivor-
Welcome to SR. You'll find a whole group of amazing and supportive people here that will give you tools and support. It's totally amazing. I didn't drink everyday, and I've only been sober for 20 straight, but everytime I meant to only have a glass or two I got drunk, and it was getting progressively worse over the last few years. I'm an alcoholic. It's a tough pill to swallow, but not everybody can drink like normal people. There is no shame in it, it's just something we learn to accept and deal with, in our own time.
I've gone to a few AA meetings and that was tough, but I now get most of my support here. I still try to go to meetings too because it's important to meet new people who live a sober lifestyle and are happy.
Anyway, you should check out the November class under newcomers. It's terrific, filled with caring people looking out for each other.
I hope you join us!
Best of luck,
KIR
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Hi SoulSurvivor,
I agree with you that stopping drinking will change your life, friends and work. But, I believe you will find that it's all good.
I don't think you have a 'type' of alcoholism, but alcoholism is a progressive disease and it will get worse unless you stop. If alcohol is causing problems in your life, then stopping drinking is the answer, and we're here to offer support.
I agree with you that stopping drinking will change your life, friends and work. But, I believe you will find that it's all good.
I don't think you have a 'type' of alcoholism, but alcoholism is a progressive disease and it will get worse unless you stop. If alcohol is causing problems in your life, then stopping drinking is the answer, and we're here to offer support.
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