What to do
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What to do
Frist of all im new to this so if this needs to be moved then thats fine.
My wife of 14 years does not know what she wants any more she is willing to try a marriage counselor so maybe there is a little hope but i dont know. we have just moved and im not working so i just needed to put this out there. snice i dont know anyone in the area we live in.I really want to drink after we got done talking but i did not. That would have just made it to easy for her to leave at that point. Sorry to keep going. just need to vent and find a meeting.
and if this is in the the wrong place let my know.
Thanks Lyle
My wife of 14 years does not know what she wants any more she is willing to try a marriage counselor so maybe there is a little hope but i dont know. we have just moved and im not working so i just needed to put this out there. snice i dont know anyone in the area we live in.I really want to drink after we got done talking but i did not. That would have just made it to easy for her to leave at that point. Sorry to keep going. just need to vent and find a meeting.
and if this is in the the wrong place let my know.
Thanks Lyle
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Hi Lyle - welcome 
it's not the wrong place if you only want answers from men
If you want input from both sexes let me know and I'll move it.
I think things always have the best chance of working out if we get sober and stay that way.
It can take a lot of work, especially in the beginning, but my life and my relationships improved dramatically when I got into recovery
How long have you been sober Lyle?
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it's not the wrong place if you only want answers from men
If you want input from both sexes let me know and I'll move it.
I think things always have the best chance of working out if we get sober and stay that way.
It can take a lot of work, especially in the beginning, but my life and my relationships improved dramatically when I got into recovery
How long have you been sober Lyle?
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I have to say that I believe my getting clean and sober was one of the things that actually made my wife decide to leave. My wife thrived on being emotionally abusive to both me and our two children. I can only guess I wasn't so easy to pigeonhole and control anymore or was just no longer the live-in bad example of a loser. In the end that was more than she could deal with. Roles shifted in the family dynamic and she didn't adapt to the changes. Now she's a high power attorney in another state. Sometimes the result of getting clean and sober is not the one you expect...
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Hey Lyle, welcome.
Sorry to hear that you're going through a rough patch with your marriage right now. I'm sure that things will improve if you give it time and continue to stay sober.
Best wishes
Sorry to hear that you're going through a rough patch with your marriage right now. I'm sure that things will improve if you give it time and continue to stay sober.
Best wishes
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Lyle...welcome to SR. I've read that moves are among the most stressful things in life. It sounds like both of you are feeling it. I hope you'll get it worked out as you get settled in. Someone at a meeting showed me a cool tool for your smartphone. It's called Steps Away, and, if your phone has GPS, will find the nearest meetings and show the schedule. Good luck!
Hang in there, and don't blow that envious 4 years. Not worth it.
Hang in there, and don't blow that envious 4 years. Not worth it.
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thanks every one i will look in to that APP on my phone the hardest thing about the move is that i left a great job in Dallas to move to corpus because that's were we wanted to live and my job didn't come thru as i was told it would so back to one income. I do believe that every thing happens for a reason.
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Welcome Lyle, and congratulations on 4 years. That's a nice chunk of sober time. That fact that your wife is willing to go to counseling and work on your marriage is probably a good thing. If you stay sober your current difficulties will be easier to deal with. Drinking won't solve anything.
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Welcome lyle. Congratulations on your 4 years. That's awesome.
You're right -things do happen for a reason. Keep your heart open to a new opportunity.
I recently moved almost 1500 miles -alone. Well, my dog was with me. It was alot for both of us and he's had an upset stomach even though we are settled -it's a new environment for both.
I was s'posed to transfer jobs but once I got here they didn't seem thrilled to hire. I went with my gut knowing something else would come along. I didn't push it.
Within a week of moving I was hired full time at a job closer and I love it! I happened to walk in, the manager happened to be there and happened to need a person with my skills. Just happened that way.
The pay isn't good (is it ever?) but I try to look ahead and think of future opportunities.
Keep the faith...and maybe the counseling wouldn't hurt. Its tough adjusting.
You're right -things do happen for a reason. Keep your heart open to a new opportunity.
I recently moved almost 1500 miles -alone. Well, my dog was with me. It was alot for both of us and he's had an upset stomach even though we are settled -it's a new environment for both.
I was s'posed to transfer jobs but once I got here they didn't seem thrilled to hire. I went with my gut knowing something else would come along. I didn't push it.
Within a week of moving I was hired full time at a job closer and I love it! I happened to walk in, the manager happened to be there and happened to need a person with my skills. Just happened that way.
The pay isn't good (is it ever?) but I try to look ahead and think of future opportunities.
Keep the faith...and maybe the counseling wouldn't hurt. Its tough adjusting.
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