Harder than I thought
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Harder than I thought
I'm finding it a lot harder to quit drinking alcohol than I thought I would. That is what has lead me here. I've always drank more than the usual person, I always knew it was excessive. But I was always able to go into work and be just fine. Just once I got off work, well, guess what I was looking forward to... A few days ago I decided to quit drinking for 30 days and see if I felt better healthwise. Well, it has only been 2 days and I feel (psychologically) like I'm dying. (Physically, I feel great). I didn't realize how much I would want a drink...it is pretty scary. I don't really want to tell anyone about this, esp. my husband, who has agreed to "cut back" his drinking somewhat (not esp. impressed with that, he's a pretty heavy drinker as well, although to his credit he hasn't had a drink in 2 days either, and seems fine). Anyway, I don't know where I am going with this post, I guess I just wanted to get it out there.
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Glad that you have found us and hope that you keep coming back. Yes it is a heck of a mind, body, and spritual disease. Hope that maybe you might go to a AA/NA meeting, there you will find people just like us who will be willing to help you. Sending good thoughts your way.
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It's quite a shock when you realize that alcohol has control over you and you thought you were the one in control. You're not alone here, in that you're finding it hard to stop drinking. It is very hard to do, but you can do it and it's worth it!
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I have a drinking husband too. He just doesn't think 6 -8 beer a day and 12 or more on weekends is a problem. After all its only beer. I drank the vodka.
Stay strong set your own goals and do it for you.
I love waking up wiht out that groggy crappy hanging feeling. It's takes a few weeks to get there but it's worth it!
Stay strong set your own goals and do it for you.
I love waking up wiht out that groggy crappy hanging feeling. It's takes a few weeks to get there but it's worth it!
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That's long been my gauge of "ok-ness" too, that I made it to work every day and as far as everyone could tell all is well. No drug problem here! I think that's the danger of not telling anyone, especially those we're close to. That's not only avoiding and deceiving others, it also set you up to deceive yourself into believeing that you've got your use/ addiction under control. Where you're "going with this post," that you "just wanted to get it out there", suggests that you're now ready to start looking at what's going on, and are looking to make some important changes for and in yourself. It IS scary looking at addiction, especially early on when you don't know where to turn or what to do, how to proceed. Essential to open up to others, to allow others IN, so you know these changes can be made, and you're in good company here. We understand...you're not alone here...welcome.
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Hi...
I'm on Day 7 now (tried to stop many times) and I found that the first few days were the worst both physically and mentally. It does get better but I'm not sure whether your urge/voice will ever go away. I know mine hasn't and I don't expect it too. I'm just doing stuff differently which is helping.
Good luck. I think this is the hardest thing I've ever done.
I'm on Day 7 now (tried to stop many times) and I found that the first few days were the worst both physically and mentally. It does get better but I'm not sure whether your urge/voice will ever go away. I know mine hasn't and I don't expect it too. I'm just doing stuff differently which is helping.
Good luck. I think this is the hardest thing I've ever done.
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Welcome to SR, Thoreau. Glad you found us. I'm also glad you're thinking about AA. Please try a few meetings. It's been my way of life for a long time. The "anonymous" means your recovery can be private. You don't have to give your last name. There's no forms to fill out. No one will require any identifying details. Tradition Three says, "The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking." So... You already qualify!
I'm also glad your husband doesn't have to quit drinking so that you can. Your independence in the matter is refreshing.
Keep posting. We care.
I'm also glad your husband doesn't have to quit drinking so that you can. Your independence in the matter is refreshing.
Keep posting. We care.
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Hi. I'm glad that you have decided to cut down...people at SR can be incredibly supportive. Even though you feel like crap (mentally) right now, it will get better. As far as being the "functioning" person who drinks, I can relate completely. I read "Drinking A Love Story) right before I quit, and it did wonders for me. I highly suggest it. Congrats on two days. We're all here for you if you need anything.
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**** - thanks for your post. I just ordered "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp from ebay after I saw your suggestion. I think I have seen you suggest it before. I guess the title struck a chord in me because the first time I saw you suggest it I thought to myself "Hmmmm.... looks intriguing." But then in my infinite brain fog from alcohol withdrawal I forgot all about it. So thank you for mentioning it again!
I love to read. I just finished a biography about Bill Wilson (co-founder of AA). It was really good as well. The title is "My Name is Bill."
Thoreau - please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing. God bless.
I love to read. I just finished a biography about Bill Wilson (co-founder of AA). It was really good as well. The title is "My Name is Bill."
Thoreau - please keep posting and letting us know how you are doing. God bless.
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