Just For Today- April 13- People Pleasing
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Just For Today- April 13- People Pleasing
April 13
People-pleasing
"…approval-seeking behavior carried us further into our addiction..."
Basic Text p. 14
When others approve of what we do or say, we feel good; when they disapprove, we feel bad. Their opinions of us, and how those opinions make us feel, can have positive value. By making us feel good about steering a straight course, they encourage us to continue doing so. "People-pleasing" is something else entirely. We "people-please" when we do things, right or wrong, solely to gain another person's approval.
Low self-esteem can make us think we need someone else's approval to feel okay about ourselves. We do whatever we think it will take to make them tell us we're okay We feel good for awhile. Then we start hurting. In trying to please another person, we've diminished ourselves and our values. We realize that the approval of others will not fill the emptiness inside us.
The inner satisfaction we seek can be found in doing the right things for the right reasons. We break the people-pleasing cycle when we stop acting merely to gain others' approval and start acting on our Higher Power's will for us. When we do, we may be pleasantly surprised to find that the people who really count in our lives will approve all the more of our behavior. Most importantly, though, we will approve of ourselves.
Just for today: Higher Power, help me live in accordance with spiritual principles. Only then can I approve of myself.
pg. 107
Just For Today Daily Meditation is the property of Narcotics Anonymous ©
People-pleasing
"…approval-seeking behavior carried us further into our addiction..."
Basic Text p. 14
When others approve of what we do or say, we feel good; when they disapprove, we feel bad. Their opinions of us, and how those opinions make us feel, can have positive value. By making us feel good about steering a straight course, they encourage us to continue doing so. "People-pleasing" is something else entirely. We "people-please" when we do things, right or wrong, solely to gain another person's approval.
Low self-esteem can make us think we need someone else's approval to feel okay about ourselves. We do whatever we think it will take to make them tell us we're okay We feel good for awhile. Then we start hurting. In trying to please another person, we've diminished ourselves and our values. We realize that the approval of others will not fill the emptiness inside us.
The inner satisfaction we seek can be found in doing the right things for the right reasons. We break the people-pleasing cycle when we stop acting merely to gain others' approval and start acting on our Higher Power's will for us. When we do, we may be pleasantly surprised to find that the people who really count in our lives will approve all the more of our behavior. Most importantly, though, we will approve of ourselves.
Just for today: Higher Power, help me live in accordance with spiritual principles. Only then can I approve of myself.
pg. 107
Just For Today Daily Meditation is the property of Narcotics Anonymous ©
chel918
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Thank you for posting that! A year ago my bf's friend passed away, we would talk but weren't really that close. Today at the bar where this guy use to hang out they had a get together/party for the 1 year anniversary of his passing. First of all it's Easter and 2nd it's weird for me to think you would celebrate someone passing away. But it's at a bar and I didn't want to go there. Not to drink or see anyone else drunk or to celebrate. So I didn't give in and do anything I didn't want to do. Not to be disrespectful to anyone (dead or alive) but I don't think a bar is the best place for me and it's an odd thing to celebrate today??!! I was just listening to the commitee in my head as they all discussed pro's and con's of going then I stumbled on your thread and it was perfect timing!!!!!!!
Thank you!
Thank you!
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