Star Gazer

I told my mom that I told a man I am dating about my ACA recovery. Actually, I told her that I wasn't going to let the fact that life is pretty good right now stop me from going to my meetings. I still need them, happy or sad.

She asked me how he reacted and I told her he was fine with it. He is very open about his own therapy and personal issues so we are both on the same page. His father is also a recovering alcoholic.

Her reaction to that?
"I hope he doesn't look at me funny when or if we meet."

Will it always be all about her and her alcoholism??? I was discussing with her how he feels about my recovery and she turned it around to be all about her.

I am not going to not tell someone I am getting into a sort of serious relationship with that I am a recovering ACA. Take it for what it is, I am what I am. Accept it or don't accept me. My mother's alcoholism is part of me and I will be damned if I am going to hide part of me because she is afraid of how people will react.

6 years sober and she still pushed my buttons. Actually it is more like, 2 and half years of recovery for me and I let her push my buttons. Looks like I need that meeting tonight!

Thanks for listening to my rant.

JT

It's amazing isn't it? When I talk with my son I will play these hidious little games changing the subject and seeing how long it takes for it to come back to him. It is never very long. I told him that his father was having surgery...you guessed it. Right back to him. That's a part of it that just is. It's too bad when it is your mother...I sort of expect it from a child.

JT

Star Gazer

My relationship has come a long way with my mother. Her need to be the center of the universe is one that I haven't dealt with yet.

Very frustrating.

Gabe

Yeah, it is too bad when it's your mother.
Unfortunately, my mother is a child.
I can so relate to what Star Gazer said.
With my Mom, it's "The All About Me Show" all the time.
*Yawn*

JT

Good point Gabe...and my child may never be an adult.
It gets old...