Everything is being done to test me
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Everything is being done to test me
That is how it feels, woke up this morning to my garden destroyed from wild boar, keep saying to myself just breath what's done is done, very hard to say when my patience is running thin
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Originally Posted by Mummyto2 
keep saying to myself just breath what's done is done, very hard to say when my patience is running thin
The bad news: sometimes, life hands me rocks.
The good news: I get to decide how long I carry the rocks.
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Very true nez, just going to the pharmacie to get a nicotine inhalor as i was craving fags this morning after seeing the garden, i don't want to give in as i am feeling so much better physically and mentally without fags and booze
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That's a tough one, Mummy, but you can handle it.You're strong. Let it go for now if you have to, and don't let it trip you up.
Finding something to be grateful for always helps in these situations.
Finding something to be grateful for always helps in these situations.
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It sure can seem like that at times.
In reality it is just life.
If we want to be successful at it we need to learn to cope with whatever it throws at us.
I am saying this to myself as much as anyone else.
I too struggle at times with this.
Hang in there
We need the clouds to appreciate the sunshine
In reality it is just life.
If we want to be successful at it we need to learn to cope with whatever it throws at us.
I am saying this to myself as much as anyone else.
I too struggle at times with this.
Hang in there
We need the clouds to appreciate the sunshine
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Being constantly presented with problems was part of my life when I was drinking, partly because life is kind of like that. On the other hand, I had fewer problems when I got sober. I also learned how to deal with and/or ignore many problems when I was sober. I don't know if this will resonate with you at all, but some of us make having problems a habit. It was something I realized I had to let go of in sobriety.
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Wild boars come in all shapes and sizes, ill health, arguments with your other half, difficult teenagers, losing a parent, losing your money, your home, or in your case your garden and the list goes on - all of those things are horrible or tragic or painful to deal with - taking a drink will make none of them better. Dealing with those real and metaphorical wild boars without drinking WILL slowly make us stronger and more resilient.
I am so sorry about your garden though, being a gardener myself I know how sad I would be.
I am so sorry about your garden though, being a gardener myself I know how sad I would be.
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Yes thanks, in the grand scheme of things it's just a garden, thinking rationally now there are a lot worse things than a garden getting trashed, think i just let one thing after another build up but taken a step back and looked at the bigger picture
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Mummy, this is the hard part, isn't it. I know I had very little skill in dealing with life. For years, I chose to be overly busy so I wouldn't have to stop and look at the state of things. Then, later I began drinking. You're doing great getting through this.
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Hello Mummy. Thank you for the thread and the thoughts about feeling tested. I've noticed how incapable I feel while drinking, and how easily frustrated and overwhelmed I can feel by things. It's a strange realization, the connection between drinking and those very feelings that we're trying to drown. Such a cycle. Slowly, we start to have small victories that build over time into something solid and provide the bridge to a better way of living, a life.
And I love dustyfox's Wild boars come in all shapes and sizes - I feel a need to write that down somewhere and keep it close.
And I love dustyfox's Wild boars come in all shapes and sizes - I feel a need to write that down somewhere and keep it close.
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Mummy - I'm sorry, too, for the destruction of your garden. I can imagine your frustration & anger. Thankfully, we now know we can get through these times without numbing ourselves & piling on more trouble.
I'm glad you posted. It does help when we know others understand & care what we're going through.
I'm glad you posted. It does help when we know others understand & care what we're going through.
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