It's finally over with....What I've learned This Year with an Alcoholic BF
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It's finally over with....What I've learned This Year with an Alcoholic BF I read over my posts. Geeze, everyone was so helpful, so supportive. The information I received on this board and the amount of support actually got me through all this crap in one piece.
Heartbroken...Boyfriend with drinking problem says I have one too, co-conspirator
argumentum ad hominem "You Do It Too" Illogical arguments explained
I Hate Him
I'm so D**m mad right now!
omg, he's gone
I'm Sayng Goodbye until he can Clean up (LETTER TO BOYFRIEND)
he says....in a couple months he can socially drink again. HELP!
They will lie (Direct lies, Omission of Truth, White Lies, Others lie for them)
They will blame you
They will let you down
They are not depnedable
They will hurt you for alcohol
They love alcohol more than you
No matter how much you love them or give up, their recovery is up to them
Stepping out out of the relationship helps you first and may help them too
Don't lie for them
Don't be an enabler
Don't believe their words, only their actions
Don't waste your life just because someone you love is doing it
I've been broken up with him for a month now.
Since I was on here last, he has gotten a DUI, lost his license, gotten very drunk 3+ more times, yelled at me and lost my respect.
He did try really good this time. I bought us matching books of "Sober for Life" and really pushed about looking into Smart Recovery. He still chose to start sneaking drinks and justified a full blown drunkfest since his father passed.
I myself feel free. It is his problem, not mine. I have my whole life ahead of me now without worry of dating an alcoholic.
Thank you so much, so very much for everything everyone did!
Giz
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Congratulations Giz,
You've done it and should feel very proud of yourself.
I know I'm proud of the steps you took. You've taken your life back. Pretty damned significant if you ask me.
I pray that you are able to stand firm in your decision and that love will once again come your way. With this experience, you're seasoned now. You'll know from the get-go if it's wrong. Just need to start looking at love a little differently.
Hugs and Blessings, Kathy
You've done it and should feel very proud of yourself.
I know I'm proud of the steps you took. You've taken your life back. Pretty damned significant if you ask me.I pray that you are able to stand firm in your decision and that love will once again come your way. With this experience, you're seasoned now. You'll know from the get-go if it's wrong. Just need to start looking at love a little differently.
Hugs and Blessings, Kathy
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