78 Days Sober
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78 Days Sober
Thank you to everyone for sharing your experiences and for your encouragement.
Things are rough here and there.
Certainly better than when I was drinking.
Trying to be happy is very difficult.
Things are rough here and there.
Certainly better than when I was drinking.
Trying to be happy is very difficult.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
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Congrats on 78 days sober! 
If you want to be happier, practice gratitude every day. Here's an article about how being grateful can make you happier.
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/22/o...pier.html?_r=0
If you want to be happier, practice gratitude every day. Here's an article about how being grateful can make you happier.
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/22/o...pier.html?_r=0
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Join Date: Mar 2020
Location: Toronto Area
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78 days is great!
I don't know if it's circumstances or not drinking that is making it difficult for you to be happy, but I found it took more than a couple of months to become at least content.
A bit of selfish indulgence in old hobbies that were put aside while drinking was helpful to get through that period.
After about 8 months of being sober, I'm surprised at how gradual the healing process is, but it has become better, for sure.
I don't know if it's circumstances or not drinking that is making it difficult for you to be happy, but I found it took more than a couple of months to become at least content.
A bit of selfish indulgence in old hobbies that were put aside while drinking was helpful to get through that period.
After about 8 months of being sober, I'm surprised at how gradual the healing process is, but it has become better, for sure.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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No one said you have to be happy all the time.
It is a very gradual thing, like GeoGo said. Sometimes there are also underlying issues like clinical depression or other life circumstances that have to be addressed - and you will.
One day at a time. Don't pick up a drink and things will start lifting.
Head up! Look toward the sun! (It's cheesey, but it works. )
It is a very gradual thing, like GeoGo said. Sometimes there are also underlying issues like clinical depression or other life circumstances that have to be addressed - and you will.
One day at a time. Don't pick up a drink and things will start lifting.
Head up! Look toward the sun! (It's cheesey, but it works.
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Join Date: May 2012
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Being sober does not equate to happiness. I truly must work towards happiness everyday. I have a habit now of waking and saying aloud what I am grateful for. Taking a minute to be thankful and grateful for all that I have been given. Somedays its a "fake it until you make it" kind of thing. Most days I truly am just happy to be clear headed, sober and living my life with freedom from active alcoholism. Gratitude really does work.
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Congrats on 78 days WestsideGuy
I'm not happy all the time - I'm not happy now - but I know that happiness/contentment will return.
Its my default position now
Thats what recovery gives me
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I'm not happy all the time - I'm not happy now - but I know that happiness/contentment will return.
Its my default position now
Thats what recovery gives me
D
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