Icandothis2013

Day 9 and my head is clearer .... so much so that I have had to do something unpleasant but decisive. For years, my 21 year old son has been abusing me using coercive control to extricate large sums of money from me. I went to court last year to get a non molestation order which calmed things down somewhat but he still tries, using threats, blackmail even though we haven’t seen each other. So I applied today to get the NMO extended .and I actually feel quite good about it ..like I’m taking back control. He won’t like it, but hey ho ...

Mizz

Gosh....That is really troublesome. I am so sorry that you have to go through this.
It is good you are making clear decisions and that you are sober. We are here for you.

Anna

I'm really sorry that you are in this situation. But, you are doing the right thing, taking care of yourself, and letting your son know that you are strong and firm in your decision.

advbike

Wow, ICDT, that is a tremendously empowering move. Good job! I also have some difficult decisions I was putting off and have been unable to muster the courage to take action. Hoping in sobriety I can do it rather than letting things go on unaddressed. You're my hero!

Congrats on Day 9 and a clear head!

Bekindalways

Congrats to 9 days and may Day 10 go well.

I hope the situation with your son improves and the Non-molestation agreement works.

Keep to the course!

Dee74

I’m glad you did that ICDT

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Steely

I'm sorry it had to come to this icdt, but looks like he's forced your hand. What else would a sober person do?

You did right icdt.

I'm learning to set boundaries with my daughter, too. It's good for the BOTH of us.

Good parenting demonstrates in action that coercivenes will not be tolerated.

Good on you.