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I'm struggling today. Do not plan to drink, but just want to run out of my house. I believe a lot of us feel this way! My husband has been angry, hurtful and resentful the past couple of days. I am working on just smiling and reminding myself that I forgave myself, I can't make him forgive me or change his ranting about how horrid the world is and everyone in it. Thanks for listening.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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Going outside and feeling the sun on our faces
and bodies does a lot to bring happiness inside
and out.
I spend a lot of time outside planting or just sitting
and listening to the birds and admiring all the work
ive done in my backyard. It's my escape from being
inside where id go absolutely crazy.
My husband can sit for hours playing cards on his
computer or sit and watch tv.....but me, I have too
much energy that I have to move about.
We are retired, so going outside allows us to have
time apart from time to time. And being outside allows
me to mediate, calm down, focus on something else
that keeps me content or busy.
A hobby. Gardening.
We all have moments that get the best of us and
we have to learn and find ways to find peace and
serenity around us.
Glad you are here with us where folks understand
so that you never have to feel alone in any of lifes
situations.
Support, care and understanding sent your way.
and bodies does a lot to bring happiness inside
and out.
I spend a lot of time outside planting or just sitting
and listening to the birds and admiring all the work
ive done in my backyard. It's my escape from being
inside where id go absolutely crazy.
My husband can sit for hours playing cards on his
computer or sit and watch tv.....but me, I have too
much energy that I have to move about.
We are retired, so going outside allows us to have
time apart from time to time. And being outside allows
me to mediate, calm down, focus on something else
that keeps me content or busy.
A hobby. Gardening.
We all have moments that get the best of us and
we have to learn and find ways to find peace and
serenity around us.
Glad you are here with us where folks understand
so that you never have to feel alone in any of lifes
situations.
Support, care and understanding sent your way.
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Join Date: Feb 2017
Location: Georgia, USA
Posts: 2,229
I'm sending hugs, Awake. I'm hoping he changes his attitude. And I hope you can find some joy to balance it all out. Gardening has been great for me, too. Funny movies and videos can also be a help, and good music.
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Location: Portland maine
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Thank you for your kind responses. I did go outside, take a walk and checked my gardens for any sign of life(in Maine.) and indeed there was some growth. It helped me get out of my head. Then my husband drove off for awhile. Yeah!
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
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There are several gardening or plant threads
here in SR as well as many other interests to
join in conversation if youd like to join in.
Many of us do enjoy gardening and planting
and all things around our gardens of paradise.
And we all live in different states or parts of
the country.
Hearing about Maine Gardening would be interesting
to know about.
Me, I live down south way in Louisiana. Baton Rouge.
Glad you are having a moment of peace outside in
your garden.
here in SR as well as many other interests to
join in conversation if youd like to join in.
Many of us do enjoy gardening and planting
and all things around our gardens of paradise.
And we all live in different states or parts of
the country.
Hearing about Maine Gardening would be interesting
to know about.
Me, I live down south way in Louisiana. Baton Rouge.
Glad you are having a moment of peace outside in
your garden.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: West Tn
Posts: 3,043
We’re very happy you’re here with us on SR, Awake.
Having damaged personal relationships, particularly in early sobriety (I don’t know whether you have been sober for many years or are fairly recently sober, so I’m not implying you are a newcomer), is pretty much the norm for many of us.
I think that the best antidote for loved ones having resentments for us or a lack of trust of us is a daily commitment on our part to get and stay sober and to be good spouses, workers, friends, etc.
I’m a completely different man today than the drunken shell of a man who walked into the treatment center and asked for help.
And it truly has been a one day at a time journey.
Please keep us posted with your progress and your occasional setbacks.
We’re here for you.
Having damaged personal relationships, particularly in early sobriety (I don’t know whether you have been sober for many years or are fairly recently sober, so I’m not implying you are a newcomer), is pretty much the norm for many of us.
I think that the best antidote for loved ones having resentments for us or a lack of trust of us is a daily commitment on our part to get and stay sober and to be good spouses, workers, friends, etc.
I’m a completely different man today than the drunken shell of a man who walked into the treatment center and asked for help.
And it truly has been a one day at a time journey.
Please keep us posted with your progress and your occasional setbacks.
We’re here for you.
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