Day 26
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Day 26
Still sober and feeling a bit calmer than yesterday.
The cravings over the past few days really shocked me. They were so intense. Living with someone who is drinking doesn't help. I can smell alcohol when I walk in the door. Thankfully I have managed to stay sober.
All the replies I received over past few days helped a lot.
The cravings over the past few days really shocked me. They were so intense. Living with someone who is drinking doesn't help. I can smell alcohol when I walk in the door. Thankfully I have managed to stay sober.
All the replies I received over past few days helped a lot.
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Fortunately my drinker of an ex husband and I are obviously not together.
While I dont blame him for my issues, I never drank before I met him and the drinking escalated. For both of us.
Glad youre navigating the situation.
I didnt know places like this exsisted. Perhaps it would have helped?
Well, everything happens for a reason. Trying to turn it into something positive.
Congrats Mary⚘
While I dont blame him for my issues, I never drank before I met him and the drinking escalated. For both of us.
Glad youre navigating the situation.
I didnt know places like this exsisted. Perhaps it would have helped?
Well, everything happens for a reason. Trying to turn it into something positive.
Congrats Mary⚘
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Originally Posted by cantsleep123 
It must be really difficult to be in that situation. I'm very lucky that my wife decided to quit a few days before me. Keep your head up and keep posting!
You are very lucky! Yes, it is difficult. Harder than I expected it to be. When I walk in the door very stressed and alcohol on table in front of me. Posting here is helping.
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Originally Posted by ShiftHappens
Fortunately my drinker of an ex husband and I are obviously not together.
While I dont blame him for my issues, I never drank before I met him and the drinking escalated. For both of us.
Glad youre navigating the situation.
I didnt know places like this exsisted. Perhaps it would have helped?
Well, everything happens for a reason. Trying to turn it into something positive.
Congrats Mary⚘
While I dont blame him for my issues, I never drank before I met him and the drinking escalated. For both of us.
Glad youre navigating the situation.
I didnt know places like this exsisted. Perhaps it would have helped?
Well, everything happens for a reason. Trying to turn it into something positive.
Congrats Mary⚘
The forum probably would have helped, but it sounds like you are better off without your ex husband.
I'm navigating the situation as best I can. I do hope I can turn it into something positive.
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No mystery Mary
I just meant help when you smells those fumes, feel those feelings and want to drink - just talking it out here helped keep me sober a bunch of times...
sometimes posting to help other people out helped me too
D
I just meant help when you smells those fumes, feel those feelings and want to drink - just talking it out here helped keep me sober a bunch of times...
sometimes posting to help other people out helped me too
D
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Hey Mary, I was busy in my backyard with gardening
and yard work today. It is my favorite hobby that
helps me get in some exercises and fresh air instead
of sitting inside all day.
I think i'd go stir crazy if i had to stay cooped up all
day.
Anyway.....what was you like today?
and yard work today. It is my favorite hobby that
helps me get in some exercises and fresh air instead
of sitting inside all day.
I think i'd go stir crazy if i had to stay cooped up all
day.
Anyway.....what was you like today?
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Hi Sharon
That is a great hobby!
Calmer today, prayed a lot last night. It helped. Decided to take your advice and not rush into any changes. I will wait patiently. Intend going to AA meeting tomorrow.
That is a great hobby!
Calmer today, prayed a lot last night. It helped. Decided to take your advice and not rush into any changes. I will wait patiently. Intend going to AA meeting tomorrow.
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That is a tough situation Mary. You obviously are a strong person. If there was alcohol in my house I'm afraid I would drink it. As Dee has wisely observed so many times, that is an issue we need to chew on because we live in a world swimming in booze. It is everywhere. But in early sobriety having it nearby is a road fraught with peril, at least it would be for me. You strength inspires me.
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Hey Mary....
Will you come back here after your meeting and
share what you heard? Is this your first meeting?
There are some folks here in SR and folks in meetings
that live with a spouse that still drinks. When you go
to your meeting, maybe you can share that you are
very new in recovery and that you are living with an
active drinker.
Ask how do you strive to build a strong recovery
foundation for yourself while living with someone
who is still drinking.
You will be surprised that you are not alone in this.
That there are many who are not only attending
AA meetings but also Al-non or seeking help with
a therapists or councilor or some other one on one
support.
Folks are learning all the time how to take care
of themselves to become sober and addiction
free. They are taking their lives back and becoming
stronger for it.
The first yr of your recovery is really important
and is advised to not do anything drastic while
you are going thru many changes within yourself.
In the meantime, arm yourself with lots of support
and work towards a plan for down the road for other
changes that may occur.
For me, I entered rehab when I was 30 by family
stepping in to help at that time in my life. I was married,
an at home mom with 2 beautiful little ones.
Family took care of my babies and got them to their
first day of kindergarten and kept their world for 28
days running as smoothly as possible keeping them
entertained without worry till I returned.
When I returned, my family was still there waiting
for me where I continued on with my family responsibilities
and my responsibilities in recovery continuing to
learn by attending a 6 week aftercare program to
complete my rehab stay.
After that, life went on as I balanced AA meetings
and holding onto my recovery support with every
step I took, everyday, every month and every yr
doing whatever I could to remain sober no matter
what.
There have been many changes in my life over
my 29 yrs sober. One was ending my 25 yr marriage
and returning to my hometown with a job and apt.
and meetings.
There after I remarried happy, healthy, honest
coming up on 11 yrs Valentine's Day.
Today, im retired and spend time connected here
to SR passing on the knowledge of addiction and
recovery taught and learned over the yrs. to other
in recovery passing on my own experiences, strengths
and hopes with them and you.
Keep posting and sharing adding to your own ESH
to pass on to those that will follow you.
Let us know what you are doing today to
help you stay sober. Reading, meditation,
exercise, meetings, other support, taking
care of you, etc?
Will you come back here after your meeting and
share what you heard? Is this your first meeting?
There are some folks here in SR and folks in meetings
that live with a spouse that still drinks. When you go
to your meeting, maybe you can share that you are
very new in recovery and that you are living with an
active drinker.
Ask how do you strive to build a strong recovery
foundation for yourself while living with someone
who is still drinking.
You will be surprised that you are not alone in this.
That there are many who are not only attending
AA meetings but also Al-non or seeking help with
a therapists or councilor or some other one on one
support.
Folks are learning all the time how to take care
of themselves to become sober and addiction
free. They are taking their lives back and becoming
stronger for it.
The first yr of your recovery is really important
and is advised to not do anything drastic while
you are going thru many changes within yourself.
In the meantime, arm yourself with lots of support
and work towards a plan for down the road for other
changes that may occur.
For me, I entered rehab when I was 30 by family
stepping in to help at that time in my life. I was married,
an at home mom with 2 beautiful little ones.
Family took care of my babies and got them to their
first day of kindergarten and kept their world for 28
days running as smoothly as possible keeping them
entertained without worry till I returned.
When I returned, my family was still there waiting
for me where I continued on with my family responsibilities
and my responsibilities in recovery continuing to
learn by attending a 6 week aftercare program to
complete my rehab stay.
After that, life went on as I balanced AA meetings
and holding onto my recovery support with every
step I took, everyday, every month and every yr
doing whatever I could to remain sober no matter
what.
There have been many changes in my life over
my 29 yrs sober. One was ending my 25 yr marriage
and returning to my hometown with a job and apt.
and meetings.
There after I remarried happy, healthy, honest
coming up on 11 yrs Valentine's Day.
Today, im retired and spend time connected here
to SR passing on the knowledge of addiction and
recovery taught and learned over the yrs. to other
in recovery passing on my own experiences, strengths
and hopes with them and you.
Keep posting and sharing adding to your own ESH
to pass on to those that will follow you.
Let us know what you are doing today to
help you stay sober. Reading, meditation,
exercise, meetings, other support, taking
care of you, etc?
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Originally Posted by Surrendered19
That is a tough situation Mary. You obviously are a strong person. If there was alcohol in my house I'm afraid I would drink it. As Dee has wisely observed so many times, that is an issue we need to chew on because we live in a world swimming in booze. It is everywhere. But in early sobriety having it nearby is a road fraught with peril, at least it would be for me. You strength inspires me.
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Originally Posted by aasharon90
Hey Mary....
Will you come back here after your meeting and
share what you heard? Is this your first meeting?
There are some folks here in SR and folks in meetings
that live with a spouse that still drinks. When you go
to your meeting, maybe you can share that you are
very new in recovery and that you are living with an
active drinker.
Ask how do you strive to build a strong recovery
foundation for yourself while living with someone
who is still drinking.
You will be surprised that you are not alone in this.
That there are many who are not only attending
AA meetings but also Al-non or seeking help with
a therapists or councilor or some other one on one
support.
Folks are learning all the time how to take care
of themselves to become sober and addiction
free. They are taking their lives back and becoming
stronger for it.
The first yr of your recovery is really important
and is advised to not do anything drastic while
you are going thru many changes within yourself.
In the meantime, arm yourself with lots of support
and work towards a plan for down the road for other
changes that may occur.
For me, I entered rehab when I was 30 by family
stepping in to help at that time in my life. I was married,
an at home mom with 2 beautiful little ones.
Family took care of my babies and got them to their
first day of kindergarten and kept their world for 28
days running as smoothly as possible keeping them
entertained without worry till I returned.
When I returned, my family was still there waiting
for me where I continued on with my family responsibilities
and my responsibilities in recovery continuing to
learn by attending a 6 week aftercare program to
complete my rehab stay.
After that, life went on as I balanced AA meetings
and holding onto my recovery support with every
step I took, everyday, every month and every yr
doing whatever I could to remain sober no matter
what.
There have been many changes in my life over
my 29 yrs sober. One was ending my 25 yr marriage
and returning to my hometown with a job and apt.
and meetings.
There after I remarried happy, healthy, honest
coming up on 11 yrs Valentine's Day.
Today, im retired and spend time connected here
to SR passing on the knowledge of addiction and
recovery taught and learned over the yrs. to other
in recovery passing on my own experiences, strengths
and hopes with them and you.
Keep posting and sharing adding to your own ESH
to pass on to those that will follow you.
Let us know what you are doing today to
help you stay sober. Reading, meditation,
exercise, meetings, other support, taking
care of you, etc?
Will you come back here after your meeting and
share what you heard? Is this your first meeting?
There are some folks here in SR and folks in meetings
that live with a spouse that still drinks. When you go
to your meeting, maybe you can share that you are
very new in recovery and that you are living with an
active drinker.
Ask how do you strive to build a strong recovery
foundation for yourself while living with someone
who is still drinking.
You will be surprised that you are not alone in this.
That there are many who are not only attending
AA meetings but also Al-non or seeking help with
a therapists or councilor or some other one on one
support.
Folks are learning all the time how to take care
of themselves to become sober and addiction
free. They are taking their lives back and becoming
stronger for it.
The first yr of your recovery is really important
and is advised to not do anything drastic while
you are going thru many changes within yourself.
In the meantime, arm yourself with lots of support
and work towards a plan for down the road for other
changes that may occur.
For me, I entered rehab when I was 30 by family
stepping in to help at that time in my life. I was married,
an at home mom with 2 beautiful little ones.
Family took care of my babies and got them to their
first day of kindergarten and kept their world for 28
days running as smoothly as possible keeping them
entertained without worry till I returned.
When I returned, my family was still there waiting
for me where I continued on with my family responsibilities
and my responsibilities in recovery continuing to
learn by attending a 6 week aftercare program to
complete my rehab stay.
After that, life went on as I balanced AA meetings
and holding onto my recovery support with every
step I took, everyday, every month and every yr
doing whatever I could to remain sober no matter
what.
There have been many changes in my life over
my 29 yrs sober. One was ending my 25 yr marriage
and returning to my hometown with a job and apt.
and meetings.
There after I remarried happy, healthy, honest
coming up on 11 yrs Valentine's Day.
Today, im retired and spend time connected here
to SR passing on the knowledge of addiction and
recovery taught and learned over the yrs. to other
in recovery passing on my own experiences, strengths
and hopes with them and you.
Keep posting and sharing adding to your own ESH
to pass on to those that will follow you.
Let us know what you are doing today to
help you stay sober. Reading, meditation,
exercise, meetings, other support, taking
care of you, etc?
Thanks for sharing your story. So inspiring that you are 29 years sober. That gives me hope!
The things I'm doing at the moment to help stay sober: prayer, meditation, walking, reading, writing in a journal and of course posting and reading on this forum.
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