Feeling guilty
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Feeling guilty
I’m 36 days sober today and it’s been a horrible anxiety filled day. This seems to be happening about every other day. One good day, one terrible day, back and forth. On days like today I just want to relax as much as possible. Be in bed, read forums, watch tv, basically be left alone. But I feel horribly guilty doing this. I have two kids, the older one wants to have friends over and I just feel like my nerves can’t take it. The younger one (7) always wants something and it’s just draining me. Family members want to visit and I turn them down and I don’t think my husband really understands what I’m going through. I feel like a worse person sober because I’m an anxious mess and can’t do anything and I’m just pushing everyone away. Sorry for the rambling, just needed to get it off my chest.
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It won't always be like this Jaz - it will get better 
One of the reasons I use the word recovery is because we;re recovering from a serious condition.
You'd cancel, if you weren't feeling well for any other reason, right?
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One of the reasons I use the word recovery is because we;re recovering from a serious condition.
You'd cancel, if you weren't feeling well for any other reason, right?
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Hi Jaz,
Congrats on day 36! That is awesome.
Please be kind to yourself and do not feel guilty. You are getting "sober" !! I have heard very successful people speak with a huge list of accomplishments the message is always the same, " getting Sober was the hardest thing I ever did."
Also if you drink you will not be present for your children anyhow. Drinking will cause a lot more guilt. So please protect your sobriety this early on.
I have heard every parent under sun (alcoholic or not) explaining the feelings you are feeling. Put your oxygen mask on
Congrats on day 36! That is awesome.
Please be kind to yourself and do not feel guilty. You are getting "sober" !! I have heard very successful people speak with a huge list of accomplishments the message is always the same, " getting Sober was the hardest thing I ever did."
Also if you drink you will not be present for your children anyhow. Drinking will cause a lot more guilt. So please protect your sobriety this early on.
I have heard every parent under sun (alcoholic or not) explaining the feelings you are feeling. Put your oxygen mask on
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My go to is exercise. Sounds like the last thing you need when you're tired but it seems to shake up all those brain chemicals and get everything flowing.
I have had serious anxiety issues and exercise has been the number one weapon I've found to deal with it.
I have had serious anxiety issues and exercise has been the number one weapon I've found to deal with it.
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Congratulations on 36 days of sobriety. I do hope that you start to feel better soon, but early recovery is a difficult time. Try to find a balance between looking after your responsibilities and taking care of yourself.
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Congrats on 36 days. It sounds like you know what you need right now. Part of recovery is learning to self-care and set boundaries.
What you are doing is the best thing you could ever do for yourself and your family. Taking care of you is taking care of them. It won't be like it is now forever.
What you are doing is the best thing you could ever do for yourself and your family. Taking care of you is taking care of them. It won't be like it is now forever.
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