Apologies
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Apologies
I went to a friends 40th birthday party last night.
My previous ex girlfriend of 10 years was there.
I had a civil conversation with her in which I said sorry for my drinking.
Wasn’t sure how she would take it but the point is I meant it and I wasn’t looking for a ‘it’s ok don’t worry about it’.
( her reply was ‘ I told you’ she’s entitled to it)
I feel better for it.
I also now know she wasn’t the one for me.
Put a lot to rest last night.
I feel as if I’ve grown and blossomed. Talking to her was like looking at my past life. A life that could never have been sustained.
She hasn’t changed, still unhappy her parents don’t like her and she doesn’t have children going to split with her boyfriend because she doesn’t have feelings for him. All curtesy of having an alcoholic father.
She said she drinks as much as I used to now.
High flying career and all that money, what use is it when you’re chained to the misery of alcoholism.
I was sympathetic towards her without being condescending or patronising.
Told her to take care and we parted.
P.s
First boozy party I’ve been to on my own. I handled it well.
Even made arrangements to go to a pumpkin festival later in the month.
My previous ex girlfriend of 10 years was there.
I had a civil conversation with her in which I said sorry for my drinking.
Wasn’t sure how she would take it but the point is I meant it and I wasn’t looking for a ‘it’s ok don’t worry about it’.
( her reply was ‘ I told you’ she’s entitled to it)
I feel better for it.
I also now know she wasn’t the one for me.
Put a lot to rest last night.
I feel as if I’ve grown and blossomed. Talking to her was like looking at my past life. A life that could never have been sustained.
She hasn’t changed, still unhappy her parents don’t like her and she doesn’t have children going to split with her boyfriend because she doesn’t have feelings for him. All curtesy of having an alcoholic father.
She said she drinks as much as I used to now.
High flying career and all that money, what use is it when you’re chained to the misery of alcoholism.
I was sympathetic towards her without being condescending or patronising.
Told her to take care and we parted.
P.s
First boozy party I’ve been to on my own. I handled it well.
Even made arrangements to go to a pumpkin festival later in the month.
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Ooh, a blossoming alcoholic with a whole host of other issues, sounds like my kind of gal. Kidding, but serious.
It’s great you got some more closure. Personal relationships, especially those of the past are complex and really loaded for me. The more you can resolve them the better. Congrats.
It’s great you got some more closure. Personal relationships, especially those of the past are complex and really loaded for me. The more you can resolve them the better. Congrats.
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not only are we helping the other guy, we are also
helping ourselves in the process of remaining sober
and strengthening our own recovery foundation
by growing, maturing and changing for a healthier,
happier, honest person in life.
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Until I came to sr, I didn't understand booze addiction...drug addiction.
They are the same. Booze works slower to destroy than meth or crack.
It altered the chemical balance in my body. I am still getting used to what normal feels like. For decades I never knew the real me. I was chemically altered. So sad.
When I see folks drinking I can see the almost immediate change. Going from craving, so called normie, to fixed normie. Most folks that start drinking at 21 or younger, will never know the real unaltered adult version of themselves.
Good for them? I say...so sad.
Anyone that routinely drinks, even in moderation, is addicted. It will catch up with them.
We here are lucky to have found this place.
The education is priceless.
I pretty much stopped getting sick. That, by itself, is a reason to never drink again. There are other benefits.
Drinking was a pure addiction. Any rationalization of the benefits becomes faulty as time goes on.
I can't change people, the addiction is to strong. It alters folks reality.
When I get offered a beer or whatever, I say no thanks. Folks say you don't drink? I say I quit to get in better shaped and decided booze wasn't for me. They usually don't ask anything else. But, i feel like I see them thinking...hmmmm.....just before they take another swig. Lol.
Thanks.
They are the same. Booze works slower to destroy than meth or crack.
It altered the chemical balance in my body. I am still getting used to what normal feels like. For decades I never knew the real me. I was chemically altered. So sad.
When I see folks drinking I can see the almost immediate change. Going from craving, so called normie, to fixed normie. Most folks that start drinking at 21 or younger, will never know the real unaltered adult version of themselves.
Good for them? I say...so sad.
Anyone that routinely drinks, even in moderation, is addicted. It will catch up with them.
We here are lucky to have found this place.
The education is priceless.
I pretty much stopped getting sick. That, by itself, is a reason to never drink again. There are other benefits.
Drinking was a pure addiction. Any rationalization of the benefits becomes faulty as time goes on.
I can't change people, the addiction is to strong. It alters folks reality.
When I get offered a beer or whatever, I say no thanks. Folks say you don't drink? I say I quit to get in better shaped and decided booze wasn't for me. They usually don't ask anything else. But, i feel like I see them thinking...hmmmm.....just before they take another swig. Lol.
Thanks.
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