Milano58

So KID has been diagnosed with a lifelong condition. I'm calling it diabetes for privacy sake. Part of the condition requires psychological support. I've already requested professional help as KID has become aggressive since separation last year. However, EXAH didn't want to go this route (I thought he was still in recovery so respected his wishes, duh). KID is very naturally playing up to sudden nightly injections, massive change in his life, huge impact. This is on top of everything going on in his life.. And the drug CAN have physical side affects and WILL have some emotional side effects. Sh1t4brains sends me a quackery of a text the other night.. Ranting about how rude KID is, how I'm spoiling him, treating him like a baby.. He needs discipline.. He's saying no all the time.. Rant rant rant. Very aggressive.

I sent a very calm message back repeating all the specialists feedback, again suggesting some psychological therapy as this has been a concern of mine for some time (I can calm KID down in 2mins). Because I've spent the last effin year calming KID down. The bleeding Dali Lama couldn't do any better. As soooon as I mentioned getting KID some much needed councilling he backed away like I was suggesting rehab. I totally disengaged after that.

He can't control KID without shouting (that's what he used to do when he lived with us). Barking at everybody.

If he starts to yell.. Enabler will know his ex wifey wasn't making anything up.

He can't drink to deal with terribly behaved 4yr old.. Cos he's court ordered not to.. And he'd have to hide/lie to enabler.

He's starting to come undone and that's not fair on KID.

hopeful4

If he refuses to allow counseling, I would go to court and get it court ordered myself. That is some selfish BS.

Ariesagain

Maybe talk to your lawyer about that diagnosis and how the specialist’s recommendations can be enforced through your custody agreement. If that involves reducing his time with his ever-so-compassionate father, it might just be best for him. By all means, get your son to a therapist...your ex can stuff it.

Sasha1972

FWIW - if you can get a court to order that Kid receive necessary medical treatments (including counselling) with or without Dad's consent, that's one more piece of documented evidence that Dad doesn't know how to put Kid's best interests first, which could be useful if things get worse or custody of Kid becomes an issue. Just saying.

It sounds like you're watching Dad's slow-motion train wreck - not a fun thing to have to go through, and you have my sympathy.