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Join Date: Aug 2017
Location: In the Country
Posts: 530
Hi Melpomene,
Welcome to SR. This is a wonderful, welcoming site.
I understand your feelings of feeling lost and agonised in your own skin, it's a horrible place to be.
Stick around as I have not been back in recovery that long but there will be others later with more experience than myself who will help.
Try & rest,hydrate,distract yourself with a good book,some junk television. If you can, eat some food. Most of all, deep breaths you have come to the right place. SR will help.
Take care & hang in there.
Sweetpeacan
Welcome to SR. This is a wonderful, welcoming site.
I understand your feelings of feeling lost and agonised in your own skin, it's a horrible place to be.
Stick around as I have not been back in recovery that long but there will be others later with more experience than myself who will help.
Try & rest,hydrate,distract yourself with a good book,some junk television. If you can, eat some food. Most of all, deep breaths you have come to the right place. SR will help.
Take care & hang in there.
Sweetpeacan
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Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,518
Hello Melpomene and NewBeginning,
It's normal to feel lost and alone at the time you decide to stop drinking/using drugs. But, you are not alone, as you will see as you look around here. We do understand.
It's normal to feel lost and alone at the time you decide to stop drinking/using drugs. But, you are not alone, as you will see as you look around here. We do understand.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 11,434
Glad to see you both--the first days of sobriety can be really hard. My anxiety was through the roof, I couldn't sleep, and I felt horrible physically also.
I took lots of hot showers, ate some soup, drank water, and watched old movies / read books I already knew and loved as well as journaling out my feelings.
Long walks helped too.
Ice cream was a super asset when I had alcohol cravings.
Posting and reading here can get you through tough periods.
It gets easier and you will feel better in a few days.
I took lots of hot showers, ate some soup, drank water, and watched old movies / read books I already knew and loved as well as journaling out my feelings.
Long walks helped too.
Ice cream was a super asset when I had alcohol cravings.
Posting and reading here can get you through tough periods.
It gets easier and you will feel better in a few days.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,576
Great to meet you, Melpomene. You too, Newbeginning - welcome!
I felt just like you do when I first arrived here. I honestly didn't see how a group like this could help me. I'd been drinking for decades. Not feeling alone anymore really strengthened me, & helped me find the courage to quit. That was almost 12 yrs. ago. You can do this - please stay with us & keep reading & posting.
I felt just like you do when I first arrived here. I honestly didn't see how a group like this could help me. I'd been drinking for decades. Not feeling alone anymore really strengthened me, & helped me find the courage to quit. That was almost 12 yrs. ago. You can do this - please stay with us & keep reading & posting.
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Join Date: Oct 2016
Posts: 82
For me, personally,
the day I stopped blaming my then 'toxic' job, my 'toxic' boss, my 'toxic' relatives, my 'toxic' friends
was
the day which sparked my longest (and still ongoing) recovery streak.
I agree, the world isn't rosy. There's toxicity everywhere. But drinking/using will only make you even less powerful to face all that crap on a daily basis, not more.
There is absolutely no guarantee whatsoever that your next job won't gradually become 'toxic'. Is there now? Will you return to the old solution then? Can you see the circular motion you're setting off? It's a squirrel trying to bite its own tail. It won't be limited to just jobs, you know.
Alcohol (or any drug use) should never be reason-oriented. It was, for me, I used to drink when I was sad. I used to drink when I was happy. No matter the occasion, the reason, the excuse, the nonsense, alcohol had to be there.
Madness, now that I look back and think about it rationally.
the day I stopped blaming my then 'toxic' job, my 'toxic' boss, my 'toxic' relatives, my 'toxic' friends
was
the day which sparked my longest (and still ongoing) recovery streak.
I agree, the world isn't rosy. There's toxicity everywhere. But drinking/using will only make you even less powerful to face all that crap on a daily basis, not more.
There is absolutely no guarantee whatsoever that your next job won't gradually become 'toxic'. Is there now? Will you return to the old solution then? Can you see the circular motion you're setting off? It's a squirrel trying to bite its own tail. It won't be limited to just jobs, you know.
Alcohol (or any drug use) should never be reason-oriented. It was, for me, I used to drink when I was sad. I used to drink when I was happy. No matter the occasion, the reason, the excuse, the nonsense, alcohol had to be there.
Madness, now that I look back and think about it rationally.
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Join Date: Apr 2019
Location: Gainesville, Fl
Posts: 435
Originally Posted by Pippo 
Alcohol (or any drug use) should never be reason-oriented. It was, for me, I used to drink when I was sad. I used to drink when I was happy. No matter the occasion, the reason, the excuse, the nonsense, alcohol had to be there.
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