Projection
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Projection
Does anyone here feel that they're projecting their fears on another and not taking responsibilry for their own role in this dynamic?
Im j7st curious as I come from a family thats had more than its share of ups and downs but thats ok.
My nom died of cancee when I was 19. aside from the fact that she didnt drink or smoke, I have lived my life without a mother
Im j7st curious as I come from a family thats had more than its share of ups and downs but thats ok.
My nom died of cancee when I was 19. aside from the fact that she didnt drink or smoke, I have lived my life without a mother
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I have self-adopted mother figures. Since I've chosen to not have my emotionally abusive parents in my life (2+ years now), I had anxieties and fears first increase (dramatically) and then completely melt away. God/Higher Power/Great Spirit lead healing.
Through Al-anon principles and mindfulness I've learned new ways to be open-minded. Focusing energy on what I can do creates opportunities and also new neuropathways in the brain.
Through Al-anon principles and mindfulness I've learned new ways to be open-minded. Focusing energy on what I can do creates opportunities and also new neuropathways in the brain.
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Hi Dandelion12. That's a good question. I'm not sure what you mean by "this dynamic"?
Alcoholic and non-alcoholic, alcoholic and family?
Either way, I'm sure most people do this from time to time. Our feelings, fears etc do run over in to all parts of our lives.
Recognizing our part in it is important so we can correct it. Projecting our feelings on to others is never a good dynamic, gets us no where.
Perhaps if you can be more specific we can be more helpful.
Alcoholic and non-alcoholic, alcoholic and family?
Either way, I'm sure most people do this from time to time. Our feelings, fears etc do run over in to all parts of our lives.
Recognizing our part in it is important so we can correct it. Projecting our feelings on to others is never a good dynamic, gets us no where.
Perhaps if you can be more specific we can be more helpful.
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Its quite possible Im not making sense right now because Im a nervous wreck.
However, my grandfather was villifird by my close family.
Guess they had no one to blame?
Was he the the designated "problrm"
Listen I get it. He was sick.
I hope seeing is grandcildchidren brought him some some joy.
But, to condemn a sick person for being sick is wrong.
I dont take take his illness personally.
I try to be supportive.
I guess I just dont get the villifing of alcholics or anyine
Sorry. I just dont get the hate
Im on my phone so sorry for any typos
However, my grandfather was villifird by my close family.
Guess they had no one to blame?
Was he the the designated "problrm"
Listen I get it. He was sick.
I hope seeing is grandcildchidren brought him some some joy.
But, to condemn a sick person for being sick is wrong.
I dont take take his illness personally.
I try to be supportive.
I guess I just dont get the villifing of alcholics or anyine
Sorry. I just dont get the hate
Im on my phone so sorry for any typos
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I guess I just dont get the villifing of alcholics or anyine
Sorry. I just dont get the hate
Me neither. I've been on the receiving end of it. What I can do is own my truths, be authenticly me and enjoy life.
I'm sorry you're hurting, Deandelion12. Do you have a recovery plan for yourself? Al-anon, Celebrate Recovery, etc. ?
I guess I just dont get the villifing of alcholics or anyine
Sorry. I just dont get the hate
Me neither. I've been on the receiving end of it. What I can do is own my truths, be authenticly me and enjoy life.
I'm sorry you're hurting, Deandelion12. Do you have a recovery plan for yourself? Al-anon, Celebrate Recovery, etc. ?
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