thomas11

I went on a vacation with my wife (we are 50) and 3 other ladies in their 70's. I did just fine there. Came home and it was labor day weekend and my birthday, kept it low key. Last weekend was opening day football season and had company come over. But the company got the neighbors to the left and the right involved. Kids, dogs, you name it. Thought for a moment I was missing out. Needed to reel myself in, and once I settled down I realized I need to set crystal clear boundaries and some things are not acceptable. Very scared this last few days.

Dee74

Jeff I think the takeaway is you didn't cave - and, if you think your recovery is getting a little flabby and needs a regular workout regimen, you can do that

Try not to panic

least

Well done on not giving in to the temptation.

yinzer

Good job getting through it.

ScottFromWI

You handled it just fine. And no shame in feeling those feelings of "missing out"...our brains don't just erase all those thoughts once we quit drinking, right?

entropy1964

Sounds like a victory to me. And you realize you need to adjust your sails. Kudos

Anna

Jeff, you did really well to get through that.

Atlast9999

Good job pulling through. The surprise get together are the most difficult because you have to quickly readjust your plan/escape plan. Sounds like that’s exactly what you did!

Hevyn

Be proud for making it over that hurdle, Jeff. You did great.

courage2

I'm really impressed that you came right here and posted about it. When I feel even the least bit edgy, I post. It really helps to put it out there and get the feedback from others who understand. Talking or writing about what you're thinking about is so different from doing it, especially when you're in a sober community like this.

SoberLeigh

Well done, Jeff.

I am so proud of you. You have fought hard for your sobriety.

Fearlessat50

So glad you made it through that!

Delilah1

Nicely done Jeff, glad you came here and posted how you are feeling.

Healthyandsober

your recovery is in shaking ground just got out and make it stronger

FLCamper

Nice going, Jeff. I worry about being in that same situation.

I envision there being an impromptu party at your house. You are suddenly struck with wanting to join in the drinking? If you don't mind sharing, what did you do? I think the trickiest part would be that it was at your house.

thomas11

Well, I did my best to "fit in", but it got to be too much and I went to my office to watch the game. They were all drinking pretty heavily so I doubt they even noticed I was gone.

courage2

Hey jeff, what are you doing today? Gotta keep from dwelling on any bad feelings about yourself or others. Have a great Saturday!

saoutchik

You are missing out Jeff, missing out on feeling like ****

Well done for staying strong during such an extended party vibe. If everyone else is getting tanked up I would say it's definitely OK not to fit in. Good work.

thomas11

Thanks saoutchik and everyone else who helped me through this.