My story...with an unknown ending.
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My story...with an unknown ending.
I've been dealing with my alcoholic mother since I was a child, around 9 years old if I'm not mistaken. I'm 20 at the moment, about to turn 21 in a couple of months. My maternal grandfather was one as well, no surprise at all. She never got any help for it, this is the outcome.
To this day, my mother's alcoholism is a dark secret. Friends, family...Nobody knows it, only a few. It's a secret kept between my father, my brother and me. It has completely devastaded each one of us, our household is miserable, we barely talk to each other or do things together.
I was successful in school, got good grades and praised by my teachers. On the inside though? Misery, sadness, loneliness. Only had 3 friends, never talked about my situation to them nor anyone else.
I'm finishing college and still feel the same way, my mother stays the same 10 years later: coming home late...and drunk, arguing with my father...nothing has changed, I just got older.
Why I'm here? I simple wanted to find that tiny little space where I can vent on and sharing my experience with those who went through the same thing, as I've never had any kind of support at all, I was an isolated child. Alcoholism and addiction is sometime very few people comprehend. It's a terrible thing, it really is.
To this day, my mother's alcoholism is a dark secret. Friends, family...Nobody knows it, only a few. It's a secret kept between my father, my brother and me. It has completely devastaded each one of us, our household is miserable, we barely talk to each other or do things together.
I was successful in school, got good grades and praised by my teachers. On the inside though? Misery, sadness, loneliness. Only had 3 friends, never talked about my situation to them nor anyone else.
I'm finishing college and still feel the same way, my mother stays the same 10 years later: coming home late...and drunk, arguing with my father...nothing has changed, I just got older.
Why I'm here? I simple wanted to find that tiny little space where I can vent on and sharing my experience with those who went through the same thing, as I've never had any kind of support at all, I was an isolated child. Alcoholism and addiction is sometime very few people comprehend. It's a terrible thing, it really is.
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welcome, Valentinus.
and sorry for what brings you here, and yes, a perfect place to find some support, others who can relate,andlots of room to vent and find solutions for yourself.
please also look farther down the forum list and check out the "Friends and Families" sections.
and sorry for what brings you here, and yes, a perfect place to find some support, others who can relate,andlots of room to vent and find solutions for yourself.
please also look farther down the forum list and check out the "Friends and Families" sections.
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Aw honey I'm so sorry. Glad you're here. You're not alone.
I'm the adult child of an alcoholic and a recovering alcoholic myself. And I have a 17 year old daughter. Soooo, I think I can relate. I can't post much now but I wanted to welcome you and I'll post a bit more tomorrow.
I'm the adult child of an alcoholic and a recovering alcoholic myself. And I have a 17 year old daughter. Soooo, I think I can relate. I can't post much now but I wanted to welcome you and I'll post a bit more tomorrow.
I hope we can help you find some peace of mind.
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