Day 3 sooo hard
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Hi Neena, day 3 was my weakness too! Day 1: swear I’ll never drink again, feel hungover and dreadful. Day 2: still a bit hungover and determined. Day three: feel better and think I want to drink again.
Trust me: you want to get to day 4. I know it’s really, really hard, but I think you will wake up tomorrow having NOT drank and be so glad. If you drink, you’ll wake up and be back at day one: feeling AWFUL and regretful.
Is there something else you want or love you can go indulge yourself in to spend that tenner on? A cake? Something you’ve been wanting to buy (NOT alcoholic!!!)? A movie you’ve been wanting to see? Can you give it to a family member to hold on to for 24 hours?
Get through another day. Get to day 4. Then reassess. But I think you’ll be soooo glad tomorrow that you didn’t drink today. You can do this!!!!!
Trust me: you want to get to day 4. I know it’s really, really hard, but I think you will wake up tomorrow having NOT drank and be so glad. If you drink, you’ll wake up and be back at day one: feeling AWFUL and regretful.
Is there something else you want or love you can go indulge yourself in to spend that tenner on? A cake? Something you’ve been wanting to buy (NOT alcoholic!!!)? A movie you’ve been wanting to see? Can you give it to a family member to hold on to for 24 hours?
Get through another day. Get to day 4. Then reassess. But I think you’ll be soooo glad tomorrow that you didn’t drink today. You can do this!!!!!
Hi Neena. Day 3 was really hard for me too, though I still had lots of anxiety. Think One Day at a Time. (ODAAT). Distract yourself today. Stay close to SR and read the threads. I lived on SR during my first several days. As Sophie points out, you will be really glad tomorrow on Day 4. Play the tape forward. If you had a drink, you will be right back at the beginning. You already have 2 hard won days. Hang in there. You can do this.
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Congrats on 3 days.
Yeah, I remember those days....ah the salad days of alcoholism. I knew I was an alcoholic, yep got that. Yeah, I drank way too much, felt bad sometimes, but I was functioning. I listened to those people in AA that told me 'its progressive, it will get worse' and I heard them. But somehow didn't apply that whole thing to me. So I kept going. Sometimes it wouldn't be that bad. Sometimes I'd even 'control' it. But then that illusion started to slip. And the benders got longer, harder, the detoxes worse. The consequences more intense. And frankly it hurt the people I love, really badly. Not to mention that its a class 1 carcinogen that was destroying my body. The older I got, the more obvious it became. Alcohol was going to kill me. And maybe I'd take someone else with me.
I haven't lost everything. Matter of fact I haven't lost anything. I'm successful, own a home, 2 cars, great kid, money in the bank. I'm fit. I'm healthy. AND I'm LUCKY as he!!. I hope to God everyday that I am finally humble enough to realize that I will lose everything, including my life, if I drink again. It is progressive. Its gets worse. Period. Its just a matter of the timeline......
Yeah, I remember those days....ah the salad days of alcoholism. I knew I was an alcoholic, yep got that. Yeah, I drank way too much, felt bad sometimes, but I was functioning. I listened to those people in AA that told me 'its progressive, it will get worse' and I heard them. But somehow didn't apply that whole thing to me. So I kept going. Sometimes it wouldn't be that bad. Sometimes I'd even 'control' it. But then that illusion started to slip. And the benders got longer, harder, the detoxes worse. The consequences more intense. And frankly it hurt the people I love, really badly. Not to mention that its a class 1 carcinogen that was destroying my body. The older I got, the more obvious it became. Alcohol was going to kill me. And maybe I'd take someone else with me.
I haven't lost everything. Matter of fact I haven't lost anything. I'm successful, own a home, 2 cars, great kid, money in the bank. I'm fit. I'm healthy. AND I'm LUCKY as he!!. I hope to God everyday that I am finally humble enough to realize that I will lose everything, including my life, if I drink again. It is progressive. Its gets worse. Period. Its just a matter of the timeline......
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Join Date: Jan 2018
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That timeframe is completely normal. Do everything to fight through those cravings in the first few days!
I just watched a video where they said:
1. Cravings don't last (look up urge surfing)
2. While uncomfortable, they won't kill you
3. While they are there, you don't have to act on them
Take care of yourself and stay busy. Before you know it, you'll gain some momentum and the anxiety and cravings will start to disappear.
Keep up the good work!
I just watched a video where they said:
1. Cravings don't last (look up urge surfing)
2. While uncomfortable, they won't kill you
3. While they are there, you don't have to act on them
Take care of yourself and stay busy. Before you know it, you'll gain some momentum and the anxiety and cravings will start to disappear.
Keep up the good work!
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Join Date: Mar 2018
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Thank you, did it! But tried everything to convince myself I just need to cut down not quit. Even-get this, himself had 3 pints in my company. Don’t know if I can be as strong tomorrow but give it my best shot with all your help!
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Yeah..stick around here and post before you drink. That "just need to cut down" had a hold me for years!! Waayyyy better with just none at all.
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Join Date: Feb 2018
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Hi Neena, day 3 was my weakness too! Day 1: swear I’ll never drink again, feel hungover and dreadful. Day 2: still a bit hungover and determined. Day three: feel better and think I want to drink again.
Trust me: you want to get to day 4. I know it’s really, really hard, but I think you will wake up tomorrow having NOT drank and be so glad. If you drink, you’ll wake up and be back at day one: feeling AWFUL and regretful.
Is there something else you want or love you can go indulge yourself in to spend that tenner on? A cake? Something you’ve been wanting to buy (NOT alcoholic!!!)? A movie you’ve been wanting to see? Can you give it to a family member to hold on to for 24 hours?
Get through another day. Get to day 4. Then reassess. But I think you’ll be soooo glad tomorrow that you didn’t drink today. You can do this!!!!!
Trust me: you want to get to day 4. I know it’s really, really hard, but I think you will wake up tomorrow having NOT drank and be so glad. If you drink, you’ll wake up and be back at day one: feeling AWFUL and regretful.
Is there something else you want or love you can go indulge yourself in to spend that tenner on? A cake? Something you’ve been wanting to buy (NOT alcoholic!!!)? A movie you’ve been wanting to see? Can you give it to a family member to hold on to for 24 hours?
Get through another day. Get to day 4. Then reassess. But I think you’ll be soooo glad tomorrow that you didn’t drink today. You can do this!!!!!
I'm feeling sooo proud of myself and you can too!
I tried the moderation route several times. Always ended up right back (or more) than the amount I quit at. I understand about 'himself'. I have one too. It is very hard, but doable. Stay close to SR Neena. We're here for you.
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