Desperate for advice on my partner going into rehab
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Desperate for advice on my partner going into rehab
My partner is coming off of prescription meds’ and alcohol and will be away for so months . I love him dearly and the time doesn’t bother I’m
Just scared they will tell
Him to cut all ties does anyone have experiences of this
Just scared they will tell
Him to cut all ties does anyone have experiences of this
There is an unwritten rule in recovery programs about not starting relationships during your first year sober. This is not about ending ongoing relationships, but just not starting new ones.
If you have questions of the rehab, can you call and talk to someone about it?
If you have questions of the rehab, can you call and talk to someone about it?
The rehab I went to also told us not to make any major life decisions in the first year unless they were urgent and unavoidable. That includes ending healthy relationships.
Unhealthy ones - ones where the other person has an active substance abuse problem, or insists on "their right" to use or drink "recreationally" shouldn't be taken away b/c of our problem. Those people often had individual sessions with the counselor that included a joint counselor-led conversation with his/her significant other before rehab ended.
It's common for people in rehab to have major limitations on contact with loved ones back home while there. We're in rehab to work on us, and the constant distractions of the messed-up lives we were leading can get in the way of working on us.
Is that what you're concerned about? Or him being told to dump you completely? Are you doing things that, were he to talk to his counselor there about them, that you fear would result in him being told to "cut all ties" to you when he leaves?
Unhealthy ones - ones where the other person has an active substance abuse problem, or insists on "their right" to use or drink "recreationally" shouldn't be taken away b/c of our problem. Those people often had individual sessions with the counselor that included a joint counselor-led conversation with his/her significant other before rehab ended.
It's common for people in rehab to have major limitations on contact with loved ones back home while there. We're in rehab to work on us, and the constant distractions of the messed-up lives we were leading can get in the way of working on us.
Is that what you're concerned about? Or him being told to dump you completely? Are you doing things that, were he to talk to his counselor there about them, that you fear would result in him being told to "cut all ties" to you when he leaves?
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Best wishes to you both!
Lou, I can't speak for the rehab he's in, only the experience from the one I was in. First week, no phone calls, no visitors. Second week, two - three briefs phone calls, and a visit on Sunday.
Call the rehab he went to and ask for the policy on both to settle your mind.
When I stopped drinking my mind was a mess for quite a while. That may come off to you as being distant and cold. But what's going on is the brain is being deprived of something it had to cope with, manage the flood of massive amounts of alcohol, and it physically changes and it adjusted to that. Now, without it the brain is struggling to adjust to life without it.
Not to mention that his psyche has lost it's coping mechanism, it's reward and pleasure. Those have to be replaced with healthy ones. Until all those things happen, he's not better yet. All he's done is to stop drinking. That's only but a necessary first step to sobriety and recovery. He's got a lot of work to do on himself now, and that will feel like he's got no time or feelings for you.
Call the rehab he went to and ask for the policy on both to settle your mind.
When I stopped drinking my mind was a mess for quite a while. That may come off to you as being distant and cold. But what's going on is the brain is being deprived of something it had to cope with, manage the flood of massive amounts of alcohol, and it physically changes and it adjusted to that. Now, without it the brain is struggling to adjust to life without it.
Not to mention that his psyche has lost it's coping mechanism, it's reward and pleasure. Those have to be replaced with healthy ones. Until all those things happen, he's not better yet. All he's done is to stop drinking. That's only but a necessary first step to sobriety and recovery. He's got a lot of work to do on himself now, and that will feel like he's got no time or feelings for you.
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