Far

Hi I am new here. I have a friend who is an alcoholic. We have been friends for over 13 years,I moved overseas with my husband 6 years ago,but have maintained contact with my friend. Since moving overseas my friend and I grew closer and that’s when I could see how much the alcohol had changed his life

I have voiced my concerns to him several times,he just isn’t ready to listen. I don’t want him to loose hope.

JJ991

I'm sorry you're going through this.

I'm afraid people with alcohol issues don't really want to hear it, they know themselves they have an issue. I would say that all you can do is gently mention things and just be there, unless of course you think he is in real danger?

There is a friends & family section on thus forum where you can read & post to get views from people in your situation, it is worth a look.

Take care x

Dee74

Hi and welcome Far

The bottom line for me was I didn't want to quit and nothing anyone could say or do made a difference to that until I was ready to change.

I'm sorry for the bleak picture but the good news is you'll find support here.

the other good news is that many people, like me, find a 'window of clarity' and turn things around

D

Am2144

Yes, I agree with Dee. I wouldn't listen to anyone until recently I finally hit my rock bottom and realized what I need to do. The important thing is just to be there for her. Let her know she has a friend.