Chwsh33

My mum is an alcoholic, 3 years we have done everything we can to get her help, rehabs, community clinics, group sessions, councelling, doctors you name it. She just doesn't seem to want to stop and the only reason she does is when she is out of money (although she has stolen in the past). I have a 4 year old child and I'm physically and mentally exhausted with it all.
Recently I've confronted my mum and told her I no longer want her to be part of our lives, it's affecting my child and my main priority is to protect him.

I can't help but feel guilty, angry, sad ect. She's my mother and I love her dearly but I can't be part of the emotional roller coaster with her anymore. She will always choose drink, she's told us that once she has money she will straight away go and buy alcohol despite all the help she's had.

I don't know what to do anymore and wether walking away is the right thing to do?
Any advice or experience would be greatly welcomed.

Maudcat

Hi, Chwsh.
Welcome.
I think that your statement, “She will always choose drink” speaks worlds.
I have an alcohol addicted sibling who is the same.
I accept that he is stuck in his addiction and has no wish to get out of it.
It too makes me sad and angry, though not guilty.
I cannot go no contact with him as he lives with my mother and I am her caregiver, but I sure wish I could.
I avoid him as much as possible.
I say, live your life and do what helps you the most.
I would also look into Al-Anon meetings as they are a great source of support.
Hugs.

hopeful4

There does come a point that a relationship is simply too toxic to be part of. It does not mean you love a person any less, just that you have to love them from afar. If not, they will drag you and everyone else down the rabbit hole with them.

Big hugs!