Nearing the end
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Nearing the end
I'm about to lose my second brother to alcoholism. He is on a mission to drink until he dies. We are very close and my heart is breaking. In the past his son and I have stepped in, but we agree that at some point (now) we have to let him go.
The pain and guilt are overwhelming.
The pain and guilt are overwhelming.
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Thanks everyone. My brother (59 years old) lives alone about 3 hours from me. He has been on an all vodka diet - literally - for 3 weeks. I spent the day with him Sunday - he actually ate a bit and we chatted. He knows we love and support him - he's just done. He's at peace with his decision so I am trying to be too. I feel like a giant hole has opened up in my heart.
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Wow.. how sad for all involved. Before I quit and worked at it vigilantly, I was going to take my life. I decided, one morning, that I was "DONE". I gave myself two weeks to get my affairs in order, so my mother and daughter would never want for anything. Insurance policies laid out and signed,cash distribution in order, rental properties,ect.. I did that for about a week while drinking morning to night. I woke up from that decision and I pray/hope your brother does as well. I have been where he's at though and it sucks! My thoughts to him, you and your family.
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Sorry to hear this. It is tough when you want to help someone who won't or can't change.
My 58 year old sister in law died last summer for alcoholism and I have another sister in law that is just as bad and will probably be next because she can't stop.
My 58 year old sister in law died last summer for alcoholism and I have another sister in law that is just as bad and will probably be next because she can't stop.
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Originally Posted by DontRemember 
Wow.. how sad for all involved. Before I quit and worked at it vigilantly, I was going to take my life. I decided, one morning, that I was "DONE". I gave myself two weeks to get my affairs in order, so my mother and daughter would never want for anything. Insurance policies laid out and signed,cash distribution in order, rental properties,ect.. I did that for about a week while drinking morning to night. I woke up from that decision and I pray/hope your brother does as well. I have been where he's at though and it sucks! My thoughts to him, you and your family.
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I am so very sorry. I too have a brother who is taking the slow suicide route.
I have expected for several years to get "that call"
It is so hard to witness.
Please take good care of YOU and come back, this is a great resource.
Hugs!!
I have expected for several years to get "that call"
It is so hard to witness.
Please take good care of YOU and come back, this is a great resource.
Hugs!!
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Originally Posted by littlesister1
I am so very sorry. I too have a brother who is taking the slow suicide route.
I have expected for several years to get "that call"
It is so hard to witness.
Please take good care of YOU and come back, this is a great resource.
Hugs!!
I have expected for several years to get "that call"
It is so hard to witness.
Please take good care of YOU and come back, this is a great resource.
Hugs!!
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Originally Posted by nesister
Thanks everyone. My brother (59 years old) lives alone about 3 hours from me. He has been on an all vodka diet - literally - for 3 weeks. I spent the day with him Sunday - he actually ate a bit and we chatted. He knows we love and support him - he's just done. He's at peace with his decision so I am trying to be too. I feel like a giant hole has opened up in my heart.
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nesister,
I am so very sorry that you are going through the pain of losing another brother to alcoholism.
((((Hugs))))
Sigh....
#MeToo.
:-(
(My dad died from this horrible disease,
and now I am witnessing my sister
as she drowns in her alcoholism and depression.)
How sad it is; there are so many of us who have lost or are in the process of losing a loved one to alcoholism/addiction.
It is painful, very, very painful.
As was said in a previous post - Take care of yourself.
I am so very sorry that you are going through the pain of losing another brother to alcoholism.
((((Hugs))))
Sigh....
#MeToo.
:-(
(My dad died from this horrible disease,
and now I am witnessing my sister
as she drowns in her alcoholism and depression.)
How sad it is; there are so many of us who have lost or are in the process of losing a loved one to alcoholism/addiction.
It is painful, very, very painful.
As was said in a previous post - Take care of yourself.
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