Crying jags
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Crying jags
Just had to leave my desk to come into the bathroom to cry. Nothing happened to instigate this!!!! Well, nothing except giving up drinking 23 days ago. Please tell me this goes away!!!
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Hi apple,
I remember in the first month standing in the supermarket looking at cheese and having a little cry. And I love cheese! And I remember sitting in my car on several occasions crying for reasons I couldn't quite work out. And the bathroom at work was another place I had a little cry in.
Now I think about it, I haven't had any secret, mysterious crying incidents for months now. So yes, it does go away. Someone here described it as alcohol being a dam. Now the dam is gone, all the buried emotions can come trickling or flooding out. I liked thinking about it like that. It made it feel like all the tears were a useful part of healing. Well done on 23 days
I remember in the first month standing in the supermarket looking at cheese and having a little cry. And I love cheese! And I remember sitting in my car on several occasions crying for reasons I couldn't quite work out. And the bathroom at work was another place I had a little cry in.
Now I think about it, I haven't had any secret, mysterious crying incidents for months now. So yes, it does go away. Someone here described it as alcohol being a dam. Now the dam is gone, all the buried emotions can come trickling or flooding out. I liked thinking about it like that. It made it feel like all the tears were a useful part of healing. Well done on 23 days
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Hi Apple. I'd say this was absolutely normal. I drank to numb anything I didn't want to face and used a lot of mental energy covering it up, planning my next drink, telling elaborate lies, focussing through the fog etc etc. In early recovery it is not only a massive physical challenge but also a mental one too. If anything having a good cry is a pretty healthy outlet. I had a good sob on Sunday and it was quite a relief as I hadn't been able to do it for a while. I don't think we are all the same but I'd say you are doing great and emotions will be a little all over the place for a while. You are healing Apple and that is the main thing. Stick with It! ❤❤❤
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It will get better, for sure. I know I cried often in the early weeks, and it made me realize I had not cried at all during the years I was drinking. I really had to get in touch with my feelings.
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Those feelings can linger though so try not to let them discourage you.
It doesn't happen to me nearly as much after 4.5 months as it did after 1 but it still pops it's head in to say "hi" quite often for me.
It doesn't happen to me nearly as much after 4.5 months as it did after 1 but it still pops it's head in to say "hi" quite often for me.
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Totally normal as your brain is healing. I not only had crying jags, I also had bouts of unexplained anger. Research PAWS. It can mess you up for up to 2 years. Luckily, I (and my family) only suffered for about a year.
Ride it out. It will get better and better.
Ride it out. It will get better and better.
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I get both the panic and crying in the first couple of weeks, then it tends to dissipate. I was walking the dog yesterday and tears just welled up out of nowhere. (Day 6, again)
That said? I'm pretty emotional to begin with and have had anxiety for years before becoming an alcoholic.
Feel better! You're not alone.
J
That said? I'm pretty emotional to begin with and have had anxiety for years before becoming an alcoholic.
Feel better! You're not alone.
J
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Apple it does- with work. Post here every time you feel emotional. Get daily/regular on the ground support. Many at AA have a sponsor (I do) so whenever they are feeling crap- they have someone to call.
Support to you.
Support to you.
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Thank you all so much! It's been quite a day! I also went to my first AA meeting and I was a mess while there. The meeting was not what I'm looking for, and I don't think I will go back to that one. I may try another or perhaps a secular group like SMART.
I've finally stopped crying and I do feel better. Just part of this journey. Will write about it in my journal to remember how the early days felt.
Thanks again everyone!!!
I've finally stopped crying and I do feel better. Just part of this journey. Will write about it in my journal to remember how the early days felt.
Thanks again everyone!!!
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I just talked about this in my meeting today. I was thinking I was going nuts. Today I literally cried over spilled milk 
, my bull for a dog came around the corner full speed and tackled me. I just sat in it and cried then started to do that scary cry laughing thing, scared the crap out of my dog 
. I hope it does pass because it just started for me this week and I'm 48 days sober
, my bull for a dog came around the corner full speed and tackled me. I just sat in it and cried then started to do that scary cry laughing thing, scared the crap out of my dog . I hope it does pass because it just started for me this week and I'm 48 days sober
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Originally Posted by NoahJ 
For me it's random panic, not crying.
But same thing basically, overwhelming feeling out of nowhere.
But same thing basically, overwhelming feeling out of nowhere.
some day I'll feel normal inside.
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