Life is falling apart!
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Life is falling apart!
Hey everyone. New on here. 33 years old and been stuck in a downward spiral of alcoholism for many years now. I'm affecting my work(paramedic), my family. I recently traumatized my 10 year old daughter and that was my turning point. Need to stop for good. I have tried in the past and only lasted 2 weeks max. I'm scared
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Welcome. Glad you're here and posting.
Have you read the links on Dee's thread about making a plan? Just removing alcohol without working on our recovery tends to be so uncomfortable that it's unsustainable. We do need a good plan of recovery, and the willingness to actually DO what we plan to do.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html
With a good plan, and willingness, we can turn things around and extricate ourselves from the chaos we have created.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
Have you read the links on Dee's thread about making a plan? Just removing alcohol without working on our recovery tends to be so uncomfortable that it's unsustainable. We do need a good plan of recovery, and the willingness to actually DO what we plan to do.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html
With a good plan, and willingness, we can turn things around and extricate ourselves from the chaos we have created.
Wishing you all the best for your sobriety and recovery. BB
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Welcome!
A priority for me in early days and weeks is working out how to avoid being close to alcohol - how to say no to invites where people are drinking, how to avoid buying alcohol to take home (changing routes, and listening to recovery podcasts while walking or driving has helped me). And then we each need a plan of what to do when stressed or when we have cravings. I find 'urge surfing' works well for me - observing the intensity and duration of cravings, noting that cravings don't last for ever and generally reduce in duration and number over time.
I'm sure others will have other suggestions.
Stick with us. We're all in this together (good times and bad, success and failure).
A priority for me in early days and weeks is working out how to avoid being close to alcohol - how to say no to invites where people are drinking, how to avoid buying alcohol to take home (changing routes, and listening to recovery podcasts while walking or driving has helped me). And then we each need a plan of what to do when stressed or when we have cravings. I find 'urge surfing' works well for me - observing the intensity and duration of cravings, noting that cravings don't last for ever and generally reduce in duration and number over time.
I'm sure others will have other suggestions.
Stick with us. We're all in this together (good times and bad, success and failure).
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Join Date: Mar 2016
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no advice just experience
i had to get into enough pain to become willing to go to aa meetings and follow some simple direction
its like a big sober social club
great job on demonstrating enough humility to ask for help
i had to get into enough pain to become willing to go to aa meetings and follow some simple direction
its like a big sober social club
great job on demonstrating enough humility to ask for help
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Hi and welcome DoingItForGood 
Coming to SR was a game changer for me. The support and advice here really helped me to make recovery a permanent thing.
I know we can help you too
What kinds of things are you doing to stay sober?
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Coming to SR was a game changer for me. The support and advice here really helped me to make recovery a permanent thing.
I know we can help you too
What kinds of things are you doing to stay sober?
D
D
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Originally Posted by Michael66 
A priority for me in early days and weeks is working out how to avoid being close to alcohol - how to say no to invites where people are drinking, how to avoid buying alcohol to take home (changing routes, and listening to recovery podcasts while walking or driving has helped me). And then we each need a plan of what to do when stressed or when we have cravings. I find 'urge surfing' works well for me - observing the intensity and duration of cravings, noting that cravings don't last for ever and generally reduce in duration and number over time.
I'm sure others will have other suggestions.
I'm sure others will have other suggestions.
Welcome to SR!
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Good to meet you, DoingItForGood. The encouragement I found here made all the difference to me. To be able to say things & have understanding was so welcome. No one else in my life knew what I was going through - and it was impossible to explain. You can get free of it - stay with us.
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Good luck, you can do it. There's a lot of good stuff here, and people who have useful experience. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have got as far as I have now without the help and support of the people here.
I don't know why, but I found watching this documentary someone else posted helped me with my resolve to really quit for good. It's hard to watch but I found it helpful, I found I identified with the young guy in the film quite a bit. It left me in no doubt where the road I was travelling on goes but in a very personal way.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NP0InrPZpjg
Keep coming back.
I don't know why, but I found watching this documentary someone else posted helped me with my resolve to really quit for good. It's hard to watch but I found it helpful, I found I identified with the young guy in the film quite a bit. It left me in no doubt where the road I was travelling on goes but in a very personal way.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NP0InrPZpjg
Keep coming back.
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Join Date: Oct 2016
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Welcome DoingItForGood,
Since you're trying AA, I would suggest reading the Big Book's first 164 pages. The word god is a spiritual god not a religious one (many people have a problem with this portion of the program). Another suggestion is to go into the AA meetings with an open mind and willingness to learn. Lastly, we live 24 hours at a time (sometimes less like 10 minutes at a time).
Good luck and keep coming back often, SR is here to help us all.
Since you're trying AA, I would suggest reading the Big Book's first 164 pages. The word god is a spiritual god not a religious one (many people have a problem with this portion of the program). Another suggestion is to go into the AA meetings with an open mind and willingness to learn. Lastly, we live 24 hours at a time (sometimes less like 10 minutes at a time).
Good luck and keep coming back often, SR is here to help us all.
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