A Bad Day...
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A Bad Day...
So...
Firstly thank you to everyone here - I had a minor slip up
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I had two cats which I adore, one died last month of liver cancer.
My other has been missing today. I've just found her by the side of the road. Legs missing, half of her head. I've brought her in
I'm in a bad way - It was just me ('crazy cat lady') and the cats I have no idea how to deal with this now x
Firstly thank you to everyone here - I had a minor slip up
...I had two cats which I adore, one died last month of liver cancer.
My other has been missing today. I've just found her by the side of the road. Legs missing, half of her head. I've brought her in
I'm in a bad way - It was just me ('crazy cat lady') and the cats
I have no idea how to deal with this now x
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Very sorry to hear about your cats Cassie, that's a lot of pain to bear in a very short period of time. Lean on us and anyone else you can, but please don't drink any more -it will make everything much worse.
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I'm really sorry Cassie.
I regret I drank through the death of my beloved pets. Drinking just pushed the pain to one side (if I was lucky) but it always came back...which meant more drinking...more pushing to one side and more drinking...
we;re meant to be sad...it might feel overwhelming but we;re tougher than we know. We grieve we cry... and then we start to adjust to life again.
Lean on us here - you're not alone
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I regret I drank through the death of my beloved pets. Drinking just pushed the pain to one side (if I was lucky) but it always came back...which meant more drinking...more pushing to one side and more drinking...
we;re meant to be sad...it might feel overwhelming but we;re tougher than we know. We grieve we cry... and then we start to adjust to life again.
Lean on us here - you're not alone
D
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I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved cats. I have cats myself and know how hard I take it when I lose one. But drinking won't help. It won't bring them back and will only make you feel worse. The only suggestion I can offer is to get two more cats. Go to your local shelter and adopt two cats in need of love. Do it in honor of your beloved cats. Do it to give a good loving home to two more cats. Member
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So sorry! I've had to put two fatally ill English Setters to sleep and lost two others, one a little puppy who died of Parvo and another ten year old setter who had liver and heart trouble. I have the ashes of three of them on my bookshelf along with their collars.
What I have learned is what Least has just advised. Go to the cat shelter. There two cats wait for you. To spend the holidays with you and to make you happy again.I once lost our cat but found him in a shelter and when I went there I was astonished at how many beautiful cats there were. Two are waiting for you. Go quickly. Go tomorrow!
Bill
What I have learned is what Least has just advised. Go to the cat shelter. There two cats wait for you. To spend the holidays with you and to make you happy again.I once lost our cat but found him in a shelter and when I went there I was astonished at how many beautiful cats there were. Two are waiting for you. Go quickly. Go tomorrow!
Bill
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Cassie,
yes, that is a bad day alright.
I was always convinced that bringing in a new animal when one has died was a terrible idea, that it would be an attempt to replace, would only lead to sidelining grief and comparing the new animal unfavorably with the previous one and be unfair to the new one, since he/she was being 'used' to fill a hole only.
I was wrong.
the one good thing about my first dog dying was that the death made room for me adopting another very shortly afterwards, which I love just for herself, and did not use simply to fill a hole or to replace another.
I decided to trust what I had read in a book written by a dog trainer, advice on the death of a dog: get another. same breed, right away.
so I got another mutt.
if you've got the love and the room and the heart and the money, maybe seriously consider it.
it doesn't take the pain away, but it adds heart, goodness.
Hope you're taking care of yourself.
yes, that is a bad day alright.
I was always convinced that bringing in a new animal when one has died was a terrible idea, that it would be an attempt to replace, would only lead to sidelining grief and comparing the new animal unfavorably with the previous one and be unfair to the new one, since he/she was being 'used' to fill a hole only.
I was wrong.
the one good thing about my first dog dying was that the death made room for me adopting another very shortly afterwards, which I love just for herself, and did not use simply to fill a hole or to replace another.
I decided to trust what I had read in a book written by a dog trainer, advice on the death of a dog: get another. same breed, right away.
so I got another mutt.
if you've got the love and the room and the heart and the money, maybe seriously consider it.
it doesn't take the pain away, but it adds heart, goodness.
Hope you're taking care of yourself.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of both of your cats. I have lost two cats in the past two years, and it was heartbreaking. I currently have two dogs, and do not know how they would do with a new kitty, since they entered our home after our cats were already here. However, I would have adopted a new cat if that were not the case.
Take some time to mourn the loss of your beloved pets, and when you are ready open your house to a new cat who is looking for a home.
I'm glad you are sober. Sending you virtual hugs.
❤️ Delilah
Take some time to mourn the loss of your beloved pets, and when you are ready open your house to a new cat who is looking for a home.
I'm glad you are sober. Sending you virtual hugs.
❤️ Delilah
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