ICanDoBetter

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Had lots of ups and good moments this weekend, but mentally I've also been counting down, as it were. Two years ago this evening I said goodnight to mother for the last time, and not long after midnight my father called with word that she had passed. It's been only a second and yet an eternity since that evening...

Dee74

I'm sorry it's a sad day IDCB...but I'm thrilled you're sober for it

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Anna

Your mother would be very proud of you tonight.

entropy1964

Anniversaries are tough. My hub died Oct 31 2011...... Halloween is a tough one now. Something that helps me is to try to honor his memory that day. Play his favorite music, make his favorite dinner and write him a letter. Just helps me.

MariahGayle

Sorry for your loss & can understand how hard the anniversary are. Be kind to yourself . (hugs)

MIRecovery

Life is so very hard but your mother is looking down on you with tears of joy in her eyes. Bad days are just that, bad days. Soon life will look brighter as long as you stay sober.

AdelineRose

Anniversaries are always the most daunting before you get sober, and even though they are always painful, I have found being sober helps allow me to process my feelings, dedicate the day to the person, and really know that in your heart the person is looking down proud on you.

After my dad unexpectantly died when I was 15 I basically used to numb the pain. I always thought that I couldn't handle the anniversary of his death unless I was completely messed up on heroin, but I know that this year, being the first year I will be sober for it, will be the one where I can really think of him and our memories and truly grief and dedicate the day to him.

Keep moving forward, using and drinking never solves anything.

Soberwolf

ICanDoBetter

Thanks all