Babescake

I have a feeling many people on here (and based off of the time zone) are not from the U.S. I always seem to be behind in the posting. Where is SR actually housed from/time zone? Just curious.

Anyway, reading U.S. CNN I found this link 2 toddlers found tied, chained in Texas backyard - CNN.com

Anyway, of course this kills me, but being in the remorse state at the moment makes me upset. Of course I'm nowhere near this but it makes me think of when I'm drunk and the only parent at home for my 5-year-old. Or other things I've done I don't want to talk about and I'm ashamed of. Nothing too horrible, especially seeing the above link, but still makes me feel like Crap Mom of the Year.

Babescake

Sorry. I'm just feeling the guilt monsters.

Dee74

I think everyone feels guilt, at least initially.

I think it's good to remember we are more than our addiction, and more than the things we did when drinking

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Babescake

Thanks Dee. I know you are kind of supposed to be apparent on threads. I'm still waiting know what the time is on SR. Can you let me know? I know it isn't U.S. as I'm going to bed way late now and it is CST USA. Goodnight.

Dee74

yeah, I answered the time zone question on your other thread babescake.

The default setting for timezones is Pacific Standard time.

If that's not your timezone and you want to change it you can follow these directions

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post3745756

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Meraviglioso

Not sure what the default time zone is but there are people from all over the world here so there is generally someone always online, though some periods have more traffic than others.
Is there something in particular you wanted to talk about? I am a mother too and just cannot even imagine if I ha done something terrible to one of my boys while drinking. I fortunately got lucky but I do often think of all the times I wasn't completely there for them as a mother because I was too buzzed. The only solution to be the mother I really wanted to be was for me to get sober for good.
Is that your plan too?

Dee74

not sure what this means

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tomsteve

i think it means
youre everywhere!

stillpooh19

Believe it or not, guilt can be a good thing. It is an indication that there is something an emotion we need to address. So don't stuff it away, face it. Talk to somebody about it, clear some heart space. If you are doing the 12 steps, put it on your list and work it out. Best wishes!

ReneM

Two days ago, my daughter was sick with a cold. She fell asleep while I was getting inebriated. She woke up again a bit niggly, but I was sleeping because I had had a bit too much. When I woke up, my sister in law was sleeping with her, comforting her like a mom should. The guilt that shot through me was unimaginable. I'm the one who is supposed to nurse her back to health.

I told myself, guilt is useless unless you learn from whatever it is that makes you feel that way and make it right. Yesterday and today, I am sober and taking care of my baby. So I truly understand what you mean about the guilt.

Dee74

Welcome to SR Rene, and thanks for sharing that, painful tho it must be.

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thomas11

HI babescake, I don't have children so I can't say I can relate, but what I can relate to is comparing ourselves to someone else who is much worse than we are. That can be a slippery slope, and I for one, have been guilty of it. Feeling guilty because you drank and neglected your responsibilities can be used as a motivational tool to remain sober. Wish you the best.