Hello, newcomer here!
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Hello, newcomer here!
Hi!
I'd been doing a bit of reading around on here and decided that maybe this is the support I need to tackle quitting. So here I am. I'm not sure how much detail to give but here goes. I'm a 24 year old woman in the UK, I work in a profession that is very high responsibility and stress, and I struggle with alcohol. I should probably just say I'm an alcoholic. My mother is an alcoholic, my mother's sister is an alcoholic, and my father abuses alcohol (to a lesser extent than my mother) and I probably started drinking beer almost daily around the age of 16.
Since then I've had very short (less than a week) periods of complete sobriety, leading to 6-8 cans of beer a night (or more) in uni - I've had peaks and troughs. I struggled with depression at this time and missed a lot of university. I now work and have cut down a bit, but noticed it creeping back up again lately.
I tried to stop for a week starting yesterday and got through about 40 hours. I had a great day at work, but then my boyfriend did something that upset me and I got quite angry and tearful. I wrestled with the cravings for a few hours and a few minutes ago I cracked and went to the shop 30 seconds across the road and bought some beer. To be clear, I'm not blaming the fact that I got alcohol on my boyfriend - I recognize this was my decision because I don't deal with emotions well and that's my responsibility and no one elses. I'm not proud of this. I'm going to try and not overdo it tonight but I've said that before.
Maybe by being here I can try again and hear about other people's stories.
I'd been doing a bit of reading around on here and decided that maybe this is the support I need to tackle quitting. So here I am. I'm not sure how much detail to give but here goes. I'm a 24 year old woman in the UK, I work in a profession that is very high responsibility and stress, and I struggle with alcohol. I should probably just say I'm an alcoholic. My mother is an alcoholic, my mother's sister is an alcoholic, and my father abuses alcohol (to a lesser extent than my mother) and I probably started drinking beer almost daily around the age of 16.
Since then I've had very short (less than a week) periods of complete sobriety, leading to 6-8 cans of beer a night (or more) in uni - I've had peaks and troughs. I struggled with depression at this time and missed a lot of university. I now work and have cut down a bit, but noticed it creeping back up again lately.
I tried to stop for a week starting yesterday and got through about 40 hours. I had a great day at work, but then my boyfriend did something that upset me and I got quite angry and tearful. I wrestled with the cravings for a few hours and a few minutes ago I cracked and went to the shop 30 seconds across the road and bought some beer. To be clear, I'm not blaming the fact that I got alcohol on my boyfriend - I recognize this was my decision because I don't deal with emotions well and that's my responsibility and no one elses. I'm not proud of this. I'm going to try and not overdo it tonight but I've said that before.
Maybe by being here I can try again and hear about other people's stories.
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Originally Posted by CaseyW 
Welcome to SR, tumbleweedgirl. You should join us in the Class of March 2016 thread found on this same forum. It's a great way to learn from and help others who are also newly sober.
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So happy to meet you, Tumbleweedgirl. 
This is a great place for friendship, understanding, and encouragement. We all understand how challenging it is to begin a new life without alcohol.
For many years I used it to get through difficult times, to ward off sadness, to celebrate. Almost every occasion seemed to call for it. I found myself drinking every day - completely dependent on it. It felt wonderful to get free. You can do this, Tumble. We are here to listen and help.
This is a great place for friendship, understanding, and encouragement. We all understand how challenging it is to begin a new life without alcohol.For many years I used it to get through difficult times, to ward off sadness, to celebrate. Almost every occasion seemed to call for it. I found myself drinking every day - completely dependent on it. It felt wonderful to get free. You can do this, Tumble. We are here to listen and help.
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Originally Posted by Hevyn
So happy to meet you, Tumbleweedgirl. This is a great place for friendship, understanding, and encouragement. We all understand how challenging it is to begin a new life without alcohol.
For many years I used it to get through difficult times, to ward off sadness, to celebrate. Almost every occasion seemed to call for it. I found myself drinking every day - completely dependent on it. It felt wonderful to get free. You can do this, Tumble. We are here to listen and help.
This is a great place for friendship, understanding, and encouragement. We all understand how challenging it is to begin a new life without alcohol.For many years I used it to get through difficult times, to ward off sadness, to celebrate. Almost every occasion seemed to call for it. I found myself drinking every day - completely dependent on it. It felt wonderful to get free. You can do this, Tumble. We are here to listen and help.
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Originally Posted by ChloeRose63
I can relate to you and your beer drinking!I am glad that you found SR. You will find lots of support here!
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Thanks! I'm struggling at the moment because some nights I manage to drink with all the good side effects, but ultimately I know it's unhealthy. Can anyone point me in the direction of learning new coping mechanisms for dealing with emotions? I think that's one of my biggest hurdles.
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Welcome! You're in good company here.....if you haven't already, you may like the 24 hour forum where members check in once a day to commit to sobriety one day at a time....I like how everyone is so encouraging, supportive, and non-judgmental....
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