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Hello
I am new here, just having a look around to see what's what. There will be tricky times ahead as I aim to start behaving myself where wine is concerned. I hope you will bear with me as I find my way around and start on this new journey. There's bound to be a few stumbles I think but with my personal loathing of group meetings, this looks like a great place to get and hopefully give support along the way.
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Hi Bravo 
I was a beer drinker, but yeah I wanted that too.
Thing was I couldn't 'behave myself', because once I started drinking I changed. I had to drink more and more and my personality changed with it....
The only real way for me to be happy and not embarrass myself was to decide not to drink at all.
Do you think that's an option for you?
D
I aim to start behaving myself where wine is concerned.
Thing was I couldn't 'behave myself', because once I started drinking I changed. I had to drink more and more and my personality changed with it....
The only real way for me to be happy and not embarrass myself was to decide not to drink at all.
Do you think that's an option for you?
D
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I would like to kid myself that I could adopt a sensible attitude to it but I fear that I cannot be relied on to do so. My goal for this week as set by the people who are giving me support at this time, is to try and set two days aside for not drinking. It's a small step but achievable I think. Ultimately I think I have to abstain completely, yes but that thought fills me with such horror I have to just take the small steps for now.
I could see peace instead of this
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Welcome to SR, bravo!
The thought of never drinking again was horrifying to me too.
I could not imagine living without it.
So I kept drinking but trying to control it so I wouldn't have to give it up completely. Nobody could convince me to stop otherwise; I had to find out for myself until I got to the point where the thought of not stopping became more horrifying than stopping.
It was hard at first, but now I look back on that time and feel like a disaster survivor; I'm so relieved to be out of it now that my thinking has cleared.
The thought of never drinking again was horrifying to me too.
I could not imagine living without it.
So I kept drinking but trying to control it so I wouldn't have to give it up completely. Nobody could convince me to stop otherwise; I had to find out for myself until I got to the point where the thought of not stopping became more horrifying than stopping.
It was hard at first, but now I look back on that time and feel like a disaster survivor; I'm so relieved to be out of it now that my thinking has cleared.
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Originally Posted by bravo588 
I would like to kid myself that I could adopt a sensible attitude to it but I fear that I cannot be relied on to do so. My goal for this week as set by the people who are giving me support at this time, is to try and set two days aside for not drinking. It's a small step but achievable I think. Ultimately I think I have to abstain completely, yes but that thought fills me with such horror I have to just take the small steps for now.
I had to accept I really had no control over my intake of alcohol after that first glass.
If we could stick to drinking just two days a week (and on those days not getting wasted but drinking 'like a gentleman'), there'd be a lot fewer of us here on SR...y'know?
Yeah it's scary but there's support here
Go for it!
D
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Hi Bravo,
Welcome to SR!! Wine was my weakness as well. I tried moderating several times and kept finding myself back to my daily habit .
Today is 43 days sober for me, and it is getting easier, but I know from past attempts I need to stay vigilant because one glass of wine can easily spiral back into wine every night for me.
Welcome to SR!! Wine was my weakness as well. I tried moderating several times and kept finding myself back to my daily habit .
Today is 43 days sober for me, and it is getting easier, but I know from past attempts I need to stay vigilant because one glass of wine can easily spiral back into wine every night for me.
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Welcome Bravo
It is hard to imagine quitting.... Really hard.
That feeling blocks the view from the other side and you have to just go through it to recognize how much you are missing and how little you are leaving behind.
Quitting pays you back in huge ways. I hope you commit to it and do it.
Best wishes.
Jonathan
It is hard to imagine quitting.... Really hard.
That feeling blocks the view from the other side and you have to just go through it to recognize how much you are missing and how little you are leaving behind.
Quitting pays you back in huge ways. I hope you commit to it and do it.
Best wishes.
Jonathan
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Sorry
Been a busy week or two, friend in hospital and now care home with broken leg, working my way through an IT course and trying to hide my participation here from my partner. I will be back but if he sees this he will probably laugh, not sure I can cope very well with that right now.
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