Changes at One Month: Some Good, Some Bad
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Changes at One Month: Some Good, Some Bad
So, I am officially at one month of sobriety. Will go to a meeting later today to receive my one month chip.
Some good things have happened this month, probably the best is that I am alive.
Other good stuff:
Rode my bike 392 miles.
Went to work every day that I was scheduled.
Lost five pounds.
Made a great new friend (she is also an alcoholic and a bike rider).
Puffiness in hands and face is gone.
Saved ~$500 (did lots of coke when drinking).
Started paying off credit card.
Didn't have to deal with any blackout shame.
Was available for my adult kids and others when needed.
Some bad too...
My marriage is in bad shape, maybe it always was(?).
I'm eating lots of sugary snacks.
I'm having to come to terms with some awful choices.
Overall, I see that the good outweighs the bad! And really, my sobriety is more important than my marriage. I hope we can work through this new dynamic, but if not...
Anyway, I guess I just want to encourage those who have even less time than I do, and thank those who have more and have so generously shared their wisdom. Now it is time to work towards the next month, one day at a time.
:-)
Some good things have happened this month, probably the best is that I am alive.
Other good stuff:
Rode my bike 392 miles.
Went to work every day that I was scheduled.
Lost five pounds.
Made a great new friend (she is also an alcoholic and a bike rider).
Puffiness in hands and face is gone.
Saved ~$500 (did lots of coke when drinking).
Started paying off credit card.
Didn't have to deal with any blackout shame.
Was available for my adult kids and others when needed.
Some bad too...
My marriage is in bad shape, maybe it always was(?).
I'm eating lots of sugary snacks.
I'm having to come to terms with some awful choices.
Overall, I see that the good outweighs the bad! And really, my sobriety is more important than my marriage. I hope we can work through this new dynamic, but if not...
Anyway, I guess I just want to encourage those who have even less time than I do, and thank those who have more and have so generously shared their wisdom. Now it is time to work towards the next month, one day at a time.
:-)
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congratulations!!!
Lots of good there! And, well... in early sobriety we are still dealing with a lot of fallout. There is plenty of "Bad" to clean up and address. It sounds like you're on the right track.
Today as you mark your 30 days, don't forget to look closely and ask yourself "what actions might I take to continue deepening my sobriety in the next 30"?
A focus on progress, not perfection... a look to the "next right thing".... continuous improvement.
Well done!!
Lots of good there! And, well... in early sobriety we are still dealing with a lot of fallout. There is plenty of "Bad" to clean up and address. It sounds like you're on the right track.
Today as you mark your 30 days, don't forget to look closely and ask yourself "what actions might I take to continue deepening my sobriety in the next 30"?
A focus on progress, not perfection... a look to the "next right thing".... continuous improvement.
Well done!!
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Fantastic news TurningLeaf! Look forward to hearing about more milestones as they pass.
The bad things you list sure sound like they're outweighed by the good. And to be honest, I suspect that the marriage situation hasn't been caused by you being sober. It seems more likely that you're just seeing the world a bit more clearly now than you were, both the good and the bad stuff. At least, I don't think many marriage counsellors will argue that the way to solve problems in a relationship is to drink more.
And given you're losing weight, I maybe wouldn't worry too much about the sugary snacks for now
The bad things you list sure sound like they're outweighed by the good. And to be honest, I suspect that the marriage situation hasn't been caused by you being sober. It seems more likely that you're just seeing the world a bit more clearly now than you were, both the good and the bad stuff. At least, I don't think many marriage counsellors will argue that the way to solve problems in a relationship is to drink more.
And given you're losing weight, I maybe wouldn't worry too much about the sugary snacks for now
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Good job! I have really started to notice a lot of things in my life that I feel need work too, but I do believe it is because the booze fog has dissipated. Take everything one step at a time and work on the things you can. Sounds like you are on the right track!
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Originally Posted by TurningLeaf 
Some bad too...
My marriage is in bad shape, maybe it always was(?).
I'm eating lots of sugary snacks.
I'm having to come to terms with some awful choices.
:-)
My marriage is in bad shape, maybe it always was(?).
I'm eating lots of sugary snacks.
I'm having to come to terms with some awful choices.
:-)
Your "bad" list is just like mine. I came here on SR and for #1 the feedback was not to make any drastic changes for the first year. This was great advice. Your spouse has had to deal with you either drunk or with a hangover, so I'm sure the booze contributed. Without question you're in a better place dealing with relationship issues sober.
#2 I've been downing chocolate shakes like no one's business
#3 I've never been very religious, but I've been attending church with the family, and I highly recommend it. "God forgives us" is a pretty powerful message, let me tell you. At least give it a shot?
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Good job for getting through a month sober!
You had lots of positive things come to you since you began to change yourself and that's great. I wouldn't worry too much about the sugar because that should diminish and hopefully you are also exercising.
And, yes coming to terms with choices made is really, really hard, but you can get through this.
You had lots of positive things come to you since you began to change yourself and that's great. I wouldn't worry too much about the sugar because that should diminish and hopefully you are also exercising.
And, yes coming to terms with choices made is really, really hard, but you can get through this.
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Thank you thank you for all the wonderful affirmations and advice! I can tell you all know exactly what I mean when I talk about the "bad".
So excited to continue this journey and it makes it even better when I feel your help and support.
You are all wonderful!!!
So excited to continue this journey and it makes it even better when I feel your help and support.
You are all wonderful!!!
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I'm coming up to 8 months, lots and lots of good things.
However my toxic relationship feels even more toxic, I guess I was "coping" with this by drinking. Getting sober has not made this a happy relationship because it isn't one.
Like Frank14, I'm trying not to make any big changes or decisions while in my first year, BUT.............. some days this seems very hard. The main thing is I'm not drinking.
One month is great. Sobriety seems to gather momentum so keep at it.
Be well
xx
However my toxic relationship feels even more toxic, I guess I was "coping" with this by drinking. Getting sober has not made this a happy relationship because it isn't one.
Like Frank14, I'm trying not to make any big changes or decisions while in my first year, BUT.............. some days this seems very hard. The main thing is I'm not drinking.
One month is great. Sobriety seems to gather momentum so keep at it.
Be well
xx
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