An Early Return
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An Early Return
I'm feeling a little more relaxed tonight. I actually have a little bit of my appetite back, which had disappeared completely-NOT a common occurrence for me!! I got a surprise call from my husband tonight asking me to come and pick him up from detox. They discharged him after only 2 days with an outpatient schedule at the sliding scale place. Of course we have no money and no insurance so the minute the alcohol was out so is he! I was terrified and not at all ready to pick him up. I didn't know what he would be like after only 2 days and I wasn't ready for him to be back home.
Tonight was also my first al-anon meeting-perfect timing. As a nice coincidence they had an AA meeting at the same place. My husband went to that meeting and I went to mine. When I came up from my meeting I was surprised to find my husband talking to people and making plans for more meetings. He introduced me to a couple of men. This is a big deal because my husband is extremely introverted and has always hated the idea of AA. We left the meeting and he went with me to pick up the kids from my parents. I gave him the option not to go with me if he wasn't ready to see my parents. He went anyway and my mom gave him a hug and told him that they loved him.
Now we're at home and he is talking to me about his experiences. He is going through his meeting book and highlighting a meeting for every day. I never thought I'd even see that.
I do know enough that I'm just thankful for today. I'll worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. I know that the chances of him never drinking again are not great. I'm just happy to see that at least now he is forming a plan-something he's never done before. He's forming a network of support that's separate from me. Tonight at my first Al-Anon meeting I began to form a network separate from him. I shared my situation and everyone was supportive and helpful. They gave me some concrete ideas regarding my current financial mess and helped me feel not so alone. I'm definitely going back next week.
Whatever happens after this, at least we have more resources than we ever did before AND most importantly I will not be responsible for his future choices. There are no secrets anymore and I'm going to try and make sure that I don't cover again.
Thank God for at least a few hours of hope.
Tonight was also my first al-anon meeting-perfect timing. As a nice coincidence they had an AA meeting at the same place. My husband went to that meeting and I went to mine. When I came up from my meeting I was surprised to find my husband talking to people and making plans for more meetings. He introduced me to a couple of men. This is a big deal because my husband is extremely introverted and has always hated the idea of AA. We left the meeting and he went with me to pick up the kids from my parents. I gave him the option not to go with me if he wasn't ready to see my parents. He went anyway and my mom gave him a hug and told him that they loved him.
Now we're at home and he is talking to me about his experiences. He is going through his meeting book and highlighting a meeting for every day. I never thought I'd even see that.
I do know enough that I'm just thankful for today. I'll worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. I know that the chances of him never drinking again are not great. I'm just happy to see that at least now he is forming a plan-something he's never done before. He's forming a network of support that's separate from me. Tonight at my first Al-Anon meeting I began to form a network separate from him. I shared my situation and everyone was supportive and helpful. They gave me some concrete ideas regarding my current financial mess and helped me feel not so alone. I'm definitely going back next week.
Whatever happens after this, at least we have more resources than we ever did before AND most importantly I will not be responsible for his future choices. There are no secrets anymore and I'm going to try and make sure that I don't cover again.
Thank God for at least a few hours of hope.
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Join Date: May 2004
Location: Moving east
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Anniecake, I'm so happy for you. It's a step in the right direction. My A b/f is also very introverted and will barely speak in public unless it's at his job where he knows everyone. I hope everything goes well for you.
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