Birthday
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Birthday
Its a milestone birthday for me in a few weeks, Im travelling to stay with an old friend, we recently got back in touch after having lost contact for many years, it was great, we picked up where we left off.l, but Im a bit anxious tho, the stupid AV said I could allow myself to drink that weekend.... my brain says dont do it, I certaintly dont want to, but I am anxious about going, worried that we may have nothing to talk about, or that there will be a sense of awkwardness as my anxiety comes into play, im worried I wont be that confident, crazy fun loving chick I used to be, hell Im worried Im going to be boring! I am sooo looking forward to the trip and excited, but nervous too. Help!
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Unless this is a drinking buddy, I'm sure you'll have loads of stuff to talk about and similar interests and ideas.
Old friends understand and support friends in a time of need, or change. Ignore that stupid AV.
Does your friend know about the changes in your life?
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Old friends understand and support friends in a time of need, or change. Ignore that stupid AV.
Does your friend know about the changes in your life?
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I worried about that too. But actually I think drunk people are boring.
You're not boring. I've been to a few get-togethers with old friends since being sober, and I was the life and soul. I could also drive myself home, which I loved!
Kick the AVs ass
You're not boring. I've been to a few get-togethers with old friends since being sober, and I was the life and soul. I could also drive myself home, which I loved!
Kick the AVs ass
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Previously you posted about being so proud of yourself for being sober and getting your liver counts back to normal, don't you want to hold onto that?
It is a great advantage that your friend knows what is going on with you. Run with it. If they are a good friend and it sounds like they are, you won't have to worry about being "on".
It is a great advantage that your friend knows what is going on with you. Run with it. If they are a good friend and it sounds like they are, you won't have to worry about being "on".
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Originally Posted by sleepie 
Previously you posted about being so proud of yourself for being sober and getting your liver counts back to normal, don't you want to hold onto that?
It is a great advantage that your friend knows what is going on with you. Run with it. If they are a good friend and it sounds like they are, you won't have to worry about being "on".
It is a great advantage that your friend knows what is going on with you. Run with it. If they are a good friend and it sounds like they are, you won't have to worry about being "on".
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Thank you x It means a lot that people understand, friend is amazing he has lots of things planned for us (me and my husband) its just evenings, going out etc, ive asked him if he knows anywhere that has live music, the thought of sitting in a pub with everyone drinking isnt filling me with complete joy, however if theres a band on that would be cool, id cope better. Thankfully him and husband arent heavy drinkers - i dont mind them drinking and being the designated driver, but not sure I could handle it being in a environment where everyone around me is getting wasted. Live band would be cool id really enjoy that and it would serve as a distraction.
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blueberry my trick is to get a large non-A drink in my hand early as possible. For some reason it stops me wanting to drink A, which makes me think a lot of it was social conditioning.
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Originally Posted by sleepie
Avoid the bar if there is no band or a show, otherwise probably trouble. Nobody wants to sit and watch other people drink especially on their birthday. How about a movie or something? And a great meal?
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Ok well I have a personal take on birthdays, I really love them for me and everyone... It's your birthday, designated driver and a pub?
No way! They drive you to... wherever you want. Just have a nice meal, a decadent dessert... it's a milestone, it doesn't have to be a wild night- just an enjoyable one- you'll remember it so that's good right?
No way! They drive you to... wherever you want. Just have a nice meal, a decadent dessert... it's a milestone, it doesn't have to be a wild night- just an enjoyable one- you'll remember it so that's good right?
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Originally Posted by sleepie
Ok well I have a personal take on birthdays, I really love them for me and everyone... It's your birthday, designated driver and a pub?
No way! They drive you to... wherever you want. Just have a nice meal, a decadent dessert... it's a milestone, it doesn't have to be a wild night- just an enjoyable one- you'll remember it so that's good right?
No way! They drive you to... wherever you want. Just have a nice meal, a decadent dessert... it's a milestone, it doesn't have to be a wild night- just an enjoyable one- you'll remember it so that's good right?
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You'll be fine Blueberry, you don't need alcohol to be fun and interesting, and if people don't like who you are then that's their problem.
Remember to enjoy yourself, and don't stress over it too much!!
Remember to enjoy yourself, and don't stress over it too much!!
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