Some advice for big events.
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Some advice for big events.
I'm doing well. 22 days. 1 day at a time. I feel strong and not a bit tempted. However I am already anxious about events coming up. One is a hen night which I can avoid. Then the wedding which I definitely can't and don't want to avoid.
I would prefer not to miss the hen but it would be way too tempting. I'm already in my head reasoning why I could go and have some drinks just that night. Same with wedding. How do people deal with this everyone will be drinking. What plan can I come up with?
If anyone has any advice I would be most grateful. I don't want to go back to how I was.
I would prefer not to miss the hen but it would be way too tempting. I'm already in my head reasoning why I could go and have some drinks just that night. Same with wedding. How do people deal with this everyone will be drinking. What plan can I come up with?
If anyone has any advice I would be most grateful. I don't want to go back to how I was.
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1st for me was to not go anywhere there was alcohol while i still had the mental obsession. i put sobriety ahead of everything.
after the mental obsession was gone, 3 simple things for me to have:
the right motive for being there.
be in fit spiritual condition
have an escape route
after the mental obsession was gone, 3 simple things for me to have:
the right motive for being there.
be in fit spiritual condition
have an escape route
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I've yet to put myself in a everyone will be drinking place . One or Two most important things . Try to have at least 1 close friend with you that is Sober & can help you though it . The other is a way to leave or at least get away if your AV kicks in .
Mostly wanted to wish you Luck & congrats on 22 days - Hold onto it
Mostly wanted to wish you Luck & congrats on 22 days - Hold onto it
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There are some good tips for social occasions here:
Crying Out Now: Thanksgiving Survival Guide
I've gone to weddings before and skipped the reception or left early. Always have an escape plan for if things get too hard.
D
Crying Out Now: Thanksgiving Survival Guide
I've gone to weddings before and skipped the reception or left early. Always have an escape plan for if things get too hard.
D
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When my only son got married I told him of course I would be at the wedding because that is the important part but I made no guarantee on attending the reception which I put a lot of money into.
I guard my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does. The only thing we have to do is stay sober. The rest are choices either good or bad
I guard my sobriety like my life depended on it because it does. The only thing we have to do is stay sober. The rest are choices either good or bad
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My best way of coping was to get a large glass of soda water in my hand as soon as I arrived. As a social introvert a lot of my drinking was to do with having a glass as a shield.
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Originally Posted by Willow3 
Then the wedding which I definitely can't and don't want to avoid.
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