It's my birthday and guess what I got?
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It's my birthday and guess what I got?
I got promises of a 3 day adventure of exploring out in his boat, promise of having my angel wings carved for me and to spend my 3 days off happy. What I really got was NOTHING short of devastating, betrayal and hurt as his drugs are more important, he went missing the night before, surfaced briefly last night to confirm his birthday plans for me, to disappear again. Happy 41st to me, having a pitty party
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Happy Birthday to you. I hope you
will treat yourself to something special.
Something for you to enjoy or treasure.
As much as we would like others that
are in our lives to treat us with respect,
treating others the way we would want
to be treated, many times it doesn't happen
the way we'd like.
Drugs and alcohol addiction is a sickness
and there are many out there that are sick
in heart, mind, soul, and body. I try to remember
those that are sick in prayers and hope that
they will seek help to become healthy and
happy in their lives.
Please don't blame yourself for his illness
and do all you need for you to get that which
you deserve in your own life.
Celebrate your birthday because this
one belongs to YOU.
will treat yourself to something special.
Something for you to enjoy or treasure.
As much as we would like others that
are in our lives to treat us with respect,
treating others the way we would want
to be treated, many times it doesn't happen
the way we'd like.
Drugs and alcohol addiction is a sickness
and there are many out there that are sick
in heart, mind, soul, and body. I try to remember
those that are sick in prayers and hope that
they will seek help to become healthy and
happy in their lives.
Please don't blame yourself for his illness
and do all you need for you to get that which
you deserve in your own life.
Celebrate your birthday because this
one belongs to YOU.
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Happy Birthday. I'm sorry this has happened.
But maybe you can look at this as an opportunity to make some decisions?
But maybe you can look at this as an opportunity to make some decisions?
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Join Date: Jul 2014
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Oh, honey.
My exAH not only forgot my birthday entirely, he spent the last of his funds taking his brother out on HIS birthday because "his birthday is so close to Christmas & he never gets to do anything". I got NOTHING for Christmas last year, after I spent over $300 to make sure that exAH had a nice one himself.
You will never, and probably have never yet, gotten anything but promises.
Please find ways to be kind to yourself. I've even gone so far as to ask my closest friends if they'd be willing to just get together for dinner, so that I was not just sitting at home having a pity party for myself.
Celebrate yourself & start asking yourself...what exactly is it that your husband/boyfriend brings to the table that you can't provide for yourself?
I think you'll find the answer is...not a whole helluva lot.
And that's all the more reason to start taking steps to end your relationship.
My exAH not only forgot my birthday entirely, he spent the last of his funds taking his brother out on HIS birthday because "his birthday is so close to Christmas & he never gets to do anything". I got NOTHING for Christmas last year, after I spent over $300 to make sure that exAH had a nice one himself.
You will never, and probably have never yet, gotten anything but promises.
Please find ways to be kind to yourself. I've even gone so far as to ask my closest friends if they'd be willing to just get together for dinner, so that I was not just sitting at home having a pity party for myself.
Celebrate yourself & start asking yourself...what exactly is it that your husband/boyfriend brings to the table that you can't provide for yourself?
I think you'll find the answer is...not a whole helluva lot.
And that's all the more reason to start taking steps to end your relationship.
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Happy birthday!! You had happy birthdays before him, and you'll have many more to come.
With addicts, it's not just birthdays. It's any day you dare to have expectations. "Oh he wouldn't ruin THIS day, he knows how important it is to me..." But to them, it's just another day to get high.
With addicts, it's not just birthdays. It's any day you dare to have expectations. "Oh he wouldn't ruin THIS day, he knows how important it is to me..." But to them, it's just another day to get high.
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S- I am sorry that he hurt you, again!! We all understand how they disappoint us. When I was in the midst of it, someone told me to lower my expectations, so when they don't follow through, we aren't so disappointed. If we expect nothing, then we aren't surprised. The joys of being with an addict!!
Hugs to you my friend!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
Hugs to you my friend!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
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Originally Posted by atalose 
The best birthday gift you can give to yourself is, close the door put the chain lock and deadbolt on this relationship so that you can eventually open a new door to a relationship that will be worthy of your love.
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Join Date: Oct 2014
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Happy Birthday to you! I hope you found something fun to do for yourself!
My last birthday I was trying to find my XABF to get him into his court appearance. Later that night, I drove 30 miles one way to take him to detox. I didn't even get a HBD.
Take extra special care of you and ask yourself if this is what you want forever.
Many hugs to you today.
My last birthday I was trying to find my XABF to get him into his court appearance. Later that night, I drove 30 miles one way to take him to detox. I didn't even get a HBD.
Take extra special care of you and ask yourself if this is what you want forever.
Many hugs to you today.
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Your all so kind!!! Went for dinner with a gf, and ten a night of camping with another gfs family. I forgot my tolerance level, I'm a stand up gal and will get super annoyed and put an end to the bs, I know my limits, just Rocky right now as im dealing with many issues, I could write a book
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Atalose,
Thank you for this statement!
Thank you for this statement!
Originally Posted by atalose
The best birthday gift you can give to yourself is, close the door put the chain lock and deadbolt on this relationship so that you can eventually open a new door to a relationship that will be worthy of your love.
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