Whatever I concentrate on will become central t...o my life.
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Whatever I concentrate on will become central t...o my life.
From Hope for Today (pg. 145):
"Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life."
When I concentrated on the alcohol, the addiction, the addicted, that was central to my life. Nothing changed. From my own experience and that of others who've been through this, I've learned I cannot change or control others.
When I concentrated on my pain and limitations, that was central to my life. I was learning awareness of myself.
As I concentrate on recovery, this is becoming central to my life. My brain is rewiring and settling down.
I am thankful to Alanon, rehab centers and therapy with those specializing in addiction, for healthy ways to concentrate on something other than the addiction.
I didn't cause the alcoholism, I can't control it, I can't cure it. I can stop contributing to it and find serenity in my life.
Just for today, I will concentrate on finding joy in my life.
"Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life."
When I concentrated on the alcohol, the addiction, the addicted, that was central to my life. Nothing changed. From my own experience and that of others who've been through this, I've learned I cannot change or control others.
When I concentrated on my pain and limitations, that was central to my life. I was learning awareness of myself.
As I concentrate on recovery, this is becoming central to my life. My brain is rewiring and settling down.
I am thankful to Alanon, rehab centers and therapy with those specializing in addiction, for healthy ways to concentrate on something other than the addiction.
I didn't cause the alcoholism, I can't control it, I can't cure it. I can stop contributing to it and find serenity in my life.
Just for today, I will concentrate on finding joy in my life.
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I have a story about this.
Shortly after I left AXH, I noticed my kids were very negative. Every time I picked them up from school, I would get an earful of how mean the kids or the teacher had been, how this person had picked on them, how that teacher had been unfair to them... It occurred to me that this was a learned behavior; when they were with their father, that's how they got his attention, by playing themselves off as victims.
One day, the youngest said she was going to count how many red cars she could see on the way home from school. She counted, and then she suddenly said, "Mom -- I never realized how many red cars there were before! It's like there are more red cars because I'm looking for them!"
I took that cue to share with them exactly what you're saying -- that what you focus on will become the mainstay of your awareness. So every night when I put them to bed, I asked them to tell me three good things that had happened that day. In the beginning, it was like pulling teeth -- but after two weeks, they stopped whining and behaving like victims and started LOOKING for the good things instead.
Shortly after I left AXH, I noticed my kids were very negative. Every time I picked them up from school, I would get an earful of how mean the kids or the teacher had been, how this person had picked on them, how that teacher had been unfair to them... It occurred to me that this was a learned behavior; when they were with their father, that's how they got his attention, by playing themselves off as victims.
One day, the youngest said she was going to count how many red cars she could see on the way home from school. She counted, and then she suddenly said, "Mom -- I never realized how many red cars there were before! It's like there are more red cars because I'm looking for them!"
I took that cue to share with them exactly what you're saying -- that what you focus on will become the mainstay of your awareness. So every night when I put them to bed, I asked them to tell me three good things that had happened that day. In the beginning, it was like pulling teeth -- but after two weeks, they stopped whining and behaving like victims and started LOOKING for the good things instead.
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This is so true KTP and lillamy.
I often stay away from SR just to give my brain a break from all the thinking about alcoholism.... we do tend to have a lot of negative stories here :-(
Anyway, my daughter keeps finding the #16. I tried to tell her that she's finding it because she is looking for it. But she's 8... For now, it's just a magical phenomenon. Who knows....? Maybe it is. Lol
I often stay away from SR just to give my brain a break from all the thinking about alcoholism.... we do tend to have a lot of negative stories here :-(
Anyway, my daughter keeps finding the #16. I tried to tell her that she's finding it because she is looking for it. But she's 8... For now, it's just a magical phenomenon. Who knows....? Maybe it is. Lol
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I have always been drawn to the phenomenon of symbols popping up like some sort of message from the universe. In my own spiritual journey, however, I have come to believe that we are a part of the universe and in fact are simply finding what is inside of us when we see these symbols in the world around us.
Tony Robbins often talks about living with intention. It is tied into this idea where our thoughts become things...
This is why, I believe, that rewiring our thinking process through positive thinking is so important for us =)
Tony Robbins often talks about living with intention. It is tied into this idea where our thoughts become things...
This is why, I believe, that rewiring our thinking process through positive thinking is so important for us =)
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