Blossom717

So I ended it this morning with the guy I've been seeing while I don't have DD (hes an ACOA). He kind of rushed things with me, we had only been talking for a few weeks before he said he loved me, then he started talking moving in together and marriage. I ended up paying 3/4 of everything we did. He said he had a car, but his mom always had to use it (lives with her) and then he told me he didn't smoke pot when we first started talking...turns out he does every day.

I had to do it over fb messenger because he forgot to pay his phone bill...again.

Anyway, It was peaceful-ish. But he started trying to guilt trip me. Told me this always happens to him, that he will "always" love me, blah blah. Then asked if I still wanted to come down to visit this weekend???

I shouldn't feel guilty, because I know what I did is the right thing....

But I do a little.

hopeful4

No guilt chicky! You don't want a man like that in your life!

XXX

LexieCat

Yeesh, I'd say you just extricated yourself from an octopus. WAYYY too needy.

Smart move, you!

Seren

Eesh...I dated a guy like that for a while, and I ended it as well. He expected me to be his every happiness and tried to rush the relationship as well. Don't feel guilty. Think of it this way...if this happens with every relationship for him, the common factor in all those relationships is him.

Excellent work seeing the red flags!!

Fandy

Forgot to pay his phone bill again? No car, no home of his own, no $$ to take you out? Run, Forest, RUN!

Thumper

Ya. I agree with the others. You showed real strength and good judgment. Let that guilt just ooze right on past. No reason to feel guilt at all. Zero. None.

LeeJane

Nice job on protecting yourself.

firebolt

Guilty?!

Girl, you did what you needed to do and you did it in record time! You deserve a friggin medal as far as I am concerned.

You probably helped him. It is only when we SEE these negative patterns in our lives that we work to change them. Maybe one day he will see that this is something he does to himself, rather than something that happens to him.

GOOD JOB!

Refiner

"Forgot" to pay his phone bill... "again". HAHAHAHA! I dated one of those once. Even lived with elderly Mom... Oh wait... His story was that he allowed her to live at HIS house. He always had se excuse for me to not come to his house. I finally just showed up and saw all the family portraits from when he was little... And doilies everywhere LOLOLOL!!

PHIZ007

You did the right thing.

When you have any doubt about your decision keep reading here.

I am married to my AH for 14 years, we have three beautiful children. I am in the process of moving forward without him. It's tough....but thanks to SR. and Al Anon I am making progress...

Slowly but surely.

Take care of yourself first and foremost and the rest will follow.

Take care Phiz

ladyscribbler

Sounds like you missed a golden opportunity- to play mommy to this manchild. High five on dodging that dysfunctional bullet.

lillamy

It's almost funny how much we can feel guilty for protecting our own interests. You saw the red flags and backed off. Good for you. That's "normal" behavior, you know.

Duckygirl1

Epic well dones to you!! Bless his heart, sounds like he was looking for another mama to move in with.