Pain is the price we pay for love
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Pain is the price we pay for love
Seeing a grief counselor and he said, "If didn't love your daughter so much you wouldn't be in so much pain."
7 months since she passed and I am so tired of feeling so bad. Alcohol is not the solution. It never was.
Still sober and putting one foot in front of the other. It can be done.
7 months since she passed and I am so tired of feeling so bad. Alcohol is not the solution. It never was.
Still sober and putting one foot in front of the other. It can be done.
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Originally Posted by MIRecovery 
Seeing a grief counselor and he said, "If didn't love your daughter so much you wouldn't be in so much pain."
7 months since she passed and I am so tired of feeling so bad. Alcohol is not the solution. It never was.
Still sober and putting one foot in front of the other. It can be done.
7 months since she passed and I am so tired of feeling so bad. Alcohol is not the solution. It never was.
Still sober and putting one foot in front of the other. It can be done.
Your post title really said so well. It's so very true.
Its a cold and its a broken hallelujah.
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MIR - I know I have said it before, but I want you to know that every single day, you and the love for your daughter, and the fact that you didn't allow anything to be an excuse for you to relapse, is a constant source of motivation for me. Every day I send you and her gratitude energy for helping me stay sober.
You are an unintended inspiration to so many of us.
May that be returned to you tenfold.
Blessings.
You are an unintended inspiration to so many of us.
May that be returned to you tenfold.
Blessings.
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there is no time limit when it comes to grief.
I've lost a lot of people in my life but one in particular left me near unable to function for couple years. I just got through a day, then another, etc. Just existing.
Ultimately, time and therapy has helped.
Being able to have a listening ear when I needed it helped, which meant email cause I'm not much of a talker outside therapy.
I have near no empathy for every day type of problems, being that I feel losing a loved one suddenly is the worst pain on earth.
So to me, you losing your child is unthinkable pain. And I can't imagine hurting more than I did. just can't.
words now fail me. I'm sorry you hurt and I'm glad you are seeing a grief counselor.
Edited to add- I would of imagined drinking during that time near dangerous for me and I'd probably not be here today. I certainly abused my ativan and all that did was delayed my healing.
I've lost a lot of people in my life but one in particular left me near unable to function for couple years. I just got through a day, then another, etc. Just existing.
Ultimately, time and therapy has helped.
Being able to have a listening ear when I needed it helped, which meant email cause I'm not much of a talker outside therapy.
I have near no empathy for every day type of problems, being that I feel losing a loved one suddenly is the worst pain on earth.
So to me, you losing your child is unthinkable pain. And I can't imagine hurting more than I did. just can't.
words now fail me. I'm sorry you hurt and I'm glad you are seeing a grief counselor.
Edited to add- I would of imagined drinking during that time near dangerous for me and I'd probably not be here today. I certainly abused my ativan and all that did was delayed my healing.
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Originally Posted by alphaomega
MIR - I know I have said it before, but I want you to know that every single day, you and the love for your daughter, and the fact that you didn't allow anything to be an excuse for you to relapse, is a constant source of motivation for me. Every day I send you and her gratitude energy for helping me stay sober.
You are an unintended inspiration to so many of us.
May that be returned to you tenfold.
Blessings.
You are an unintended inspiration to so many of us.
May that be returned to you tenfold.
Blessings.
an inspiration is actually an understatement.
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MIR, when I had just graduated from college, I was in retail management. This perfectly lovely, lovely, kind, gracious beautiful older woman worked for me. Her name was Marianne. Everyone who met her, worked with her, knew her, was her customer, etc. loved her. You couldn't help but not feel wonderful in her presence. She was always smiling. One day she told me that her son had died when he was about my age. (at the time I was in my early twenties) He was an electrician and he was electrocuted when working on someone's TV. I said, "OMG, how did you cope?" She said, "I didn't. I became an alcoholic and almost drank myself to death. But then I decided I wanted to live." That is all that she ever said to me about it and it took me 20 more years to face my own drinking issues but I never forgot that and she and you will always be an inspiration to me. Much love and hope sending your way ~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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