ugh. totally backslid last night/today.....
ugh. totally backslid last night/today.....
I mentioned AH has been pretty good lately. Drinking but not being drunk, has been nice, going out of his way doing things for me, ect.....
So, I fell for it.
Let my guard down and we were intimate a couple times.
BUT I've been FULL of anxiety since. I have 1 Xanax left that I'm saving for a true emergency and have almost taken it several times.
Have had a stomach ache all day and evening.
Feeling used.
He gets to have his cake and eat it too. Which is just how he likes it.
Hate myself for this. Ugh.
Someone yell at me and tell me what a dumb thing that was! I just feel sooooo awful.
So, I fell for it.
Let my guard down and we were intimate a couple times.
BUT I've been FULL of anxiety since. I have 1 Xanax left that I'm saving for a true emergency and have almost taken it several times.
Have had a stomach ache all day and evening.
Feeling used.
He gets to have his cake and eat it too. Which is just how he likes it.
Hate myself for this. Ugh.
Someone yell at me and tell me what a dumb thing that was! I just feel sooooo awful.
Ahh...I have been there! No, don't be angry with yourself. Learn from it and get over it.
Sometimes we need to find a little enjoyment in this world, just keep it all in its proper place and perspective. It doesn't change anything or heal anything and it doesn't mean you have to put your guard down and not be wise.
You're ok...hugs!
Sometimes we need to find a little enjoyment in this world, just keep it all in its proper place and perspective. It doesn't change anything or heal anything and it doesn't mean you have to put your guard down and not be wise.
You're ok...hugs!
normally, turning to your husband for affection is a normal, acceptable, positive thing.
you wanted THAT.
problem is..............your AH can't BE that for you. he did his NICE act to get you to submit. gave you enough intermittent attention that you thought for sure this time you would get the TREAT.
you are becoming more aware of your own needs, wants, values, ethics and morals............we lose touch with that when we become enmeshed in another human. we leave ourselves and become THEM.
you wanted THAT.
problem is..............your AH can't BE that for you. he did his NICE act to get you to submit. gave you enough intermittent attention that you thought for sure this time you would get the TREAT.
you are becoming more aware of your own needs, wants, values, ethics and morals............we lose touch with that when we become enmeshed in another human. we leave ourselves and become THEM.
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All part of the lather, rinse, repeat cycle.
In my situation, the active alcoholic had such a charismatic way about him. Gift of gab, well mannered, intelligent, and just fun to be around, until............
Pretty certain if any of us witnessed the true nature of their disease the first time meeting them, we would run for the hills.
Sometimes we stay in this situation and get a front row seat of how this disease progresses and that how we end up here, shaking our heads in disbelief, and asking the question, now what?
You certainly are not the first or only one to have been bamboozled, go easy on yourself.
(hugs)
In my situation, the active alcoholic had such a charismatic way about him. Gift of gab, well mannered, intelligent, and just fun to be around, until............
Pretty certain if any of us witnessed the true nature of their disease the first time meeting them, we would run for the hills.
Sometimes we stay in this situation and get a front row seat of how this disease progresses and that how we end up here, shaking our heads in disbelief, and asking the question, now what?
You certainly are not the first or only one to have been bamboozled, go easy on yourself.
(hugs)
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So, I fell for it.
Let my guard down and we were intimate a couple times.
Let my guard down and we were intimate a couple times.
The only thing you can change in this whole dynamic is you.
It happens Pink. Move on from it. Remember the icky feeling for next time..... because there will be a next time.
Most of all be kind to yourself. Talk to your self about this make a plan for how you will handle it in the future.
Most of all be kind to yourself. Talk to your self about this make a plan for how you will handle it in the future.
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