Can't believe it
Can't believe it
My 19 year old daughter who has a 10 month old with an incarcerated man who has 5 kids by different women has just told me that she is pregnant by another man who is married and has 4 kids and his wife is pregnant with number 5. Oh, he was put in jail today also...see the pattern? You can't make this up. I think sobriety is not in the cards for me. I really must have screwed her up as a parent and now.....this is too much for me.
Hang in there Tate the best way to be there for her is to stay sober & support her
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Sorry this must be very stressful
try this http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...e-surfing.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
Sorry this must be very stressful
Drinking won't solve anything Tate, in fact it will most likely just make your life more miserable. And it definitely won't help your daughter, her choices are her own and beyond your control.
I want to run away. Move. This is crazy. I grew up in instability but it didn't look like this. We were civilized upper middle class crazy. One mom and dad married 3 children all equally screwed up by the same mom and dad. This is insane and so wrong. What
has happened to our society?
has happened to our society?
I want to run away. Move. This is crazy. I grew up in instability but it didn't look like this. We were civilized upper middle class crazy. One mom and dad married 3 children all equally screwed up by the same mom and dad. This is insane and so wrong. What
has happened to our society?
has happened to our society?
Ok. So how do I take care of myself? How? By raising 2 illegitimate kids? While working full time and being 50? Because my daughter is obviously not concerned with raising them just producing them.
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Tate!
#1 , quit blaming yourself... 19 year olds have a mind of their own...Trust me , I've been there..I think we all have...
#2 , Hurting yourself further will not help anyone , especially the 2 new arrivals..Which are children , nonetheless , regardless of who the father is..
#3 , Turn it around and make a seemingly insane situation a positive moment ..
You have the power to do this...Alcohol will not help the outcome for you , your daughter , or your new grandchildren...
You can do this!
#1 , quit blaming yourself... 19 year olds have a mind of their own...Trust me , I've been there..I think we all have...
#2 , Hurting yourself further will not help anyone , especially the 2 new arrivals..Which are children , nonetheless , regardless of who the father is..
#3 , Turn it around and make a seemingly insane situation a positive moment ..
You have the power to do this...Alcohol will not help the outcome for you , your daughter , or your new grandchildren...
You can do this!
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On a side note , this is the time you throw your hands up and Thank God for 2 beautiful grandchildren , regardless of how they came to be...There's a whole world you can show them... Lift yer head up..
On a side note , this is the time you throw your hands up and Thank God for 2 beautiful grandchildren , regardless of how they came to be...There's a whole world you can show them... Lift yer head up..
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Hope you're in a better frame of mind today. Drinking is not going to help you, your daughter, your grandchild, or grandchild to be.
Do what's necessary to right your ship and you'll be in a much better position to make good decisions about your daughter and her situation.
Not downplaying any of this, but before you can truly help others you need to help yourself.
Do what's necessary to right your ship and you'll be in a much better position to make good decisions about your daughter and her situation.
Not downplaying any of this, but before you can truly help others you need to help yourself.
Your daughter seems to have an obsession for doing things that feel good in the short term even though they are bad for her in the long term.
I did the same thing for many years, although my obsession came in a bottle.
Perhaps you can work on that together.
I did the same thing for many years, although my obsession came in a bottle.
Perhaps you can work on that together.
I can promise you one thing for sure in all of this;
getting drunk won't change any of it.
I'm sure if feels overwhelming. That's a lot to take on and I'll bet it full-on sucks.
You'll be far more capable of being the best you can for yourself, your daughter and your life if you stay sober.
getting drunk won't change any of it.
I'm sure if feels overwhelming. That's a lot to take on and I'll bet it full-on sucks.
You'll be far more capable of being the best you can for yourself, your daughter and your life if you stay sober.
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