Came home to a beer themed party
Came home to a beer themed party
My girlfriend and her friends are having a beer themed birthday party for their friend at our apartment tonight - beer drinking, beer flavored foods, etc. My girlfriend mentioned it last night but I forgot till just now. I don't feel triggered or have the urge to drink, but I'm sorta annoyed by this. My girlfriend know I'm sober but I haven't explicitly told her I'm an alcoholic. I also want her and her friends to feel free to have events at our place, I don't wanna control the space. Is there a way to be cordial while still maintaining my distance?
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During a couple of holiday parties I felt obligated to attend I was prepared with a good supply of carbonated water with assorted mixers for me. I'm several months into this and would not have attempted it earlier on. After the first 15 minutes or so I didn't feel awkward at all and some others actually drank what I was having. I had a nice time and took little breaks to the outside as the evenings progressed. I wish you the best, but protect your sobriety for the treasure it is. Otherwise, hope y'all have fun.
I think it's time (not tonight) to have a conversation with your girlfriend about your intention of Sobriety and maybe a little support may be helpful.
For the here and now, either making a quick exit or settling in with something non alcoholic seem to be the 2 options at hand, excusing yourself for an early night may be the best and easiest given the choice!!
Hang in there!!
For the here and now, either making a quick exit or settling in with something non alcoholic seem to be the 2 options at hand, excusing yourself for an early night may be the best and easiest given the choice!!
Hang in there!!
For me, I wouldn't have been able to be around that situation for many, many months into my recovery.
I think being completely open with your girlfriend at some point would be a good idea.
I think being completely open with your girlfriend at some point would be a good idea.
Like the others I think it is time to have a chat with your girlfriend. it's one thing not to disclose that you are an alcoholic if you are just dating but if you two are living together that's another ball game.
Hope should be your safe place, DoubleFelix. Your GF should be partner in maintaining that status.
Of your GF thinks that you are simply a non-drinker, it's probably time to share the facts.
Hope all goes well tonight. Say hello, goodnight, and head off to your room.
Of your GF thinks that you are simply a non-drinker, it's probably time to share the facts.
Hope all goes well tonight. Say hello, goodnight, and head off to your room.
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