Coming out all over again....
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Coming out all over again....
Just home from Christmas with my Mom's side of the family. Lots of food, people, presents, and alcohol. A few different people asked if I wanted a drink, I said "No thank you." No one really cared that I wasn't drinking, but I still felt like I was holding in a secret. Being gay, it reminded me of before I came out.
So during dinner, while my 23 year old nephew was talking about a particularly bad night he had recently at a party, I piped up and said "Speaking of drinking, I decided to stop." It wasn't hard to say but it was. I had nothing but positive responses, except from my nephew of course lol.
I didn't want my family branding me as an "alcoholic", but that is what I am so I guess it doesn't matter. When asked why I simply said "The hangovers are getting to be too much and it's just not fun anymore" which seemed like a perfect way to explain it, that is after-all what led me to quit.
So, I'm officially out as an alcoholic-x-drinker with that side of the family. Have the other side tomorrow, which will be the same, more people, more food (I REALLY need to get to the gym lol) and more alcohol. I will most likely come out, yet again :-)
Happy Holidays to all! Merry ChritmaKwanziKah! Stay strong......stress can be overwhelming about now, as I'm sure you all know.
Donny - An alcoholic-x-drinker for 10 days.
So during dinner, while my 23 year old nephew was talking about a particularly bad night he had recently at a party, I piped up and said "Speaking of drinking, I decided to stop." It wasn't hard to say but it was. I had nothing but positive responses, except from my nephew of course lol.
I didn't want my family branding me as an "alcoholic", but that is what I am so I guess it doesn't matter. When asked why I simply said "The hangovers are getting to be too much and it's just not fun anymore" which seemed like a perfect way to explain it, that is after-all what led me to quit.
So, I'm officially out as an alcoholic-x-drinker with that side of the family. Have the other side tomorrow, which will be the same, more people, more food (I REALLY need to get to the gym lol) and more alcohol. I will most likely come out, yet again :-)
Happy Holidays to all! Merry ChritmaKwanziKah! Stay strong......stress can be overwhelming about now, as I'm sure you all know.
Donny - An alcoholic-x-drinker for 10 days.
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That's awesome! I did the same thing. Now you have all those people to be accountable to. That will help you stay in track and it tells me that you are really serious about quitting! That's awesome!
What a Christmas gift to yourself! :-)
What a Christmas gift to yourself! :-)
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It's so funny and telling - was reading my posts from the last time I tried to quit 2 years ago. I can tell my brain is in a TOTALLY different place. I didn't really want to stop. Now I do. It makes such a gigantic difference. All I talked about was relapsing and cravings and being bored. For me, deciding to actually quit and really wanting to, I have no fear of relapsing, haven't had any cravings, and have been so busy it's been amazing! I know I'm newly sober and am riding a high from that, but damn-it, I'm happy!
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Nice going, Donny.
Your nephew may not appreciate the magnitude of what you shared but, if he has a problem with alcohol, he may one day remember Uncle Donny's bravery. . . . .
You just never know what 'ripples' you create when you skip the stone in the lake.
Merry Christmas.
Your nephew may not appreciate the magnitude of what you shared but, if he has a problem with alcohol, he may one day remember Uncle Donny's bravery. . . . .
You just never know what 'ripples' you create when you skip the stone in the lake.
Merry Christmas.
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