Catareta

Tonight I have my work's do & am feeling guilty and confused. Could I have a drink with my meal or should I abstain? My RABF has said its fine but I don't want to feel awkward.

Any tips?

Lookingforchange

I drove to mine definitely the best option

Catareta

I don't drive (visually impaired).. Think one wont hurt & I am in control of my drinking

Kboys

Will RABF be with you?

Catareta

No he wont.. He is staying at home.

Sungrl

You can do whatever YOU want to do! He has nothing to do with it.

Kboys

I went to a work thing a couple of weeks ago without AH. I told him before I left that I was likely going to have a glass or two of wine, which I did. I felt funny about it. I didn't want to make him feel anxious when I came home and he smelled it on me.
But he said he didn't mind, and it was fine when I came home. It was pretty nice really. I do miss having a glass or two every once in a while Nice treat for me.


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Rosiepetal

For the first 2 years my ABF was in recovery I would not drink around him.
If we went out together & people were drinking I wouldn't drink out of respect for him.
Eventually he got more comfortable & I had a glass of wine socially.
I think if you are going out without him then it is your choice to do as you wish.

jarp

Talk to your RAH about it? I was all gung-ho on not drinking around RAH, and he said to me he actually wants people to carry on as they normally do, otherwise it's going to make him feel weird and guilty and under the spot light. I'm a pretty light drinker anyway so giving up drinking around him would have been absolutely NO hardship whatsoever...but on occasions where I might usually have a drink...I do.

RAH's family are huge drinkers so they were happy to hear RAH say he doesn't mind if they drink...and they've drunk plenty around him....it doesn't seem to trigger him at all.