Soberintexas007

I do attend AA and Al-Anon meetings, but I lied about having a sponsor. I lied because people have judged me in the past about this, and I didn't want to do deal with that.

I have already worked the steps in AA in the past but am currently not working the steps again. This may change, however.

Also, I do have a home Al-Anon group on Wednesday, but I don't have any home group for AA.

There it is.

ladyscribbler

I worked my Alanon steps without a sponsor. I have relied on the e,s&h of older, wiser members (which is most of them) to guide me. I used my therapist for my fifth step.
If what you're doing is working, then that's all that matters. It's your program, you work it the way you think is best. Something Alanon has taught me is to trust my own judgement and stop second guessing myself.
And I really admire everyone who does the hard work that it takes to live in sobriety. Congratulations on your 30 days. That is a terrific accomplishment and I hope you have done something nice for yourself to celebrate. You deserve it.

honeypig

Rigorous honesty, right? Good job.

freetosmile

JB-

It shows a huge commitment to your own recovery in my opinion to admit that you lied about something and it was obviously bugging you! Good call for identifying the problem and dishing out the solution, no matter how difficult!

Hawkeye13

I would also like to congratulate you on your thirty days.

Especially in light of the difficult situation with your husband it really is quite an accomplishment

aasharon90

In recovery when I learned how to
work the steps then learned how to
live them or in other words incorporate
them in my everyday life, there was
and still is one of many lessons I
continue to practice and that one is
being honest.

I had to learn that for every lie I
told, I would have to make amends
for them. For me, like many, don't
like to have to return to someone
and tell them I lied.

Soooooo, I take careful consideration
and thought of what I am about to say
to someone so that it isn't a lie because
facing them again to tell them the truth
is so darn hard.

When you find the right person you
feel comfortable with that you choose
to be your sponsor, or someone that
you can trust in talking to, you will
know it.

I don't think there is a time line to
hurry up and get a sponsor because
everyone is different and everyone has
different situations in life. However,
having someone you want to help you
go over the steps with, someone that
will guide you in ur program then that
would be a good suggestion.

My recovery program is mine and it
is my responsibility to be willing and
openminded as well as honest to do
whatever I need to do to remain sober,
healthy and happy.

It can be the same for you too.

LexieCat

The honesty is important. A sponsor is a good thing to have--and I think for you, especially, because I detect a tendency to isolate. But it's certainly your call whether to have one.

I'd just suggest you keep your eyes/ears open and if you run across someone you think would be good for you, give it some thought.

Hammer

Well, honeypig beat me to it, but

GOOD JOB!

Super. Proud to know you.

Soberintexas007

Thank you!

redatlanta

Good job on the honesty!

Some people can work the steps without a sponsor. Gentle nudge to find one though - may be worth trying certainly if it doesn't work for you you can end that participation.