Still Trying
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Still Trying
Hello everyone!
I'm new to this site but I've been reading some posts for a while now. Anyway, I decided to join because I really want some advice on staying sober and because I don't want anyone I know that I have a problem with alcohol. Right now I haven't drank exactly in a month. I've been sober for a month before but I never been able to pass that. I still get some urges to drink but I try to control myself. I know if I drink I'm going to keep hurting myself but the feeling that alcohol gives me, keeps me still wanting to drink. I'll be honest and I think, I will eventually start drinking again and that's where I would like some on advice on. I've been trying hard this past month by distracting myself on dieting and working out but this is my second time trying.
I'm new to this site but I've been reading some posts for a while now. Anyway, I decided to join because I really want some advice on staying sober and because I don't want anyone I know that I have a problem with alcohol. Right now I haven't drank exactly in a month. I've been sober for a month before but I never been able to pass that. I still get some urges to drink but I try to control myself. I know if I drink I'm going to keep hurting myself but the feeling that alcohol gives me, keeps me still wanting to drink. I'll be honest and I think, I will eventually start drinking again and that's where I would like some on advice on. I've been trying hard this past month by distracting myself on dieting and working out but this is my second time trying.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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Welcome, LLBH!
I had to take that off the table. Living in "someday, maybe" was blocking me from full recovery. It was leaving despair and misery as an option.
It always ends the same way when we pick up that first drink, you know? Maybe not that day, but soon.
I had to take that off the table. Living in "someday, maybe" was blocking me from full recovery. It was leaving despair and misery as an option.
It always ends the same way when we pick up that first drink, you know? Maybe not that day, but soon.
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Welcome to the forum and welcome to SR LLBH
Well done on reaching a month try these Alcoholism-12 Step Support - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information Or Secular Connections - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Well done on reaching a month try these Alcoholism-12 Step Support - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information Or Secular Connections - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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Congratulations on your 1 month sober!
I think it's great that you are exercising and eating well. Making lifestyle changes in recovery is really important. There is lots of support here, so I hope you keep reading and posting.
I think it's great that you are exercising and eating well. Making lifestyle changes in recovery is really important. There is lots of support here, so I hope you keep reading and posting.
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Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: Northern NJ
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Welcome aboard the sober train! Next stop life long sobriety and happiness!
Working out and dieting always helped me as you can focus your energies to something positive. I would always slip up after a few months and found the only way to really stop was to get a trainer/coach. It's money well spent as you will have to be accountable to someone - not just yourself. If you belong to a gym they definitely will have one. If you have a sport you love - tennis, running, cycling whatever they too will have coaches available in your area. Its actually pretty affordable - i pay only $100 a month and get weekly workouts that i upload to his account so he can see i am doing them. Good luck and keep at it!
Working out and dieting always helped me as you can focus your energies to something positive. I would always slip up after a few months and found the only way to really stop was to get a trainer/coach. It's money well spent as you will have to be accountable to someone - not just yourself. If you belong to a gym they definitely will have one. If you have a sport you love - tennis, running, cycling whatever they too will have coaches available in your area. Its actually pretty affordable - i pay only $100 a month and get weekly workouts that i upload to his account so he can see i am doing them. Good luck and keep at it!
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Join Date: Dec 2008
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Welcome aboard the sober train! Next stop life long sobriety and happiness!
Working out and dieting always helped me as you can focus your energies to something positive. I would always slip up after a few months and found the only way to really stop was to get a trainer/coach. It's money well spent as you will have to be accountable to someone - not just yourself. If you belong to a gym they definitely will have one. If you have a sport you love - tennis, running, cycling whatever they too will have coaches available in your area. Its actually pretty affordable - i pay only $100 a month and get weekly workouts that i upload to his account so he can see i am doing them. Good luck and keep at it!
Working out and dieting always helped me as you can focus your energies to something positive. I would always slip up after a few months and found the only way to really stop was to get a trainer/coach. It's money well spent as you will have to be accountable to someone - not just yourself. If you belong to a gym they definitely will have one. If you have a sport you love - tennis, running, cycling whatever they too will have coaches available in your area. Its actually pretty affordable - i pay only $100 a month and get weekly workouts that i upload to his account so he can see i am doing them. Good luck and keep at it!
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welcome to the rest of us, LLBH.
a month is great. you can pass that mark by staying sober today.
and yeah, what finally worked for me is what bimini said: knowing it would never be different if i drank again and accepting that whole-heartedly.
this is doable.
a month is great. you can pass that mark by staying sober today.
and yeah, what finally worked for me is what bimini said: knowing it would never be different if i drank again and accepting that whole-heartedly.
this is doable.
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Join Date: Nov 2014
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Thank you everyone for your support and yea I do have that thinking that I will quit someday. So far, trying to keep my body healthy seems to motivate me not drink. I actually feel different from staying sober this month. Once again thanks guys and I will keep posting and asking for advice.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Great to meet you LLBH. I think it'll really help you to be here with us. I was able to finally get it right after decades of trial & error. The support & encouragement here made all the difference.
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I think maybe when you reach milestones like a month or two.. immediately set another milestone for the future.. That worked for me once.. I just kept saying "I won't drink until..X.. then I won't drink until...Y.." Worked for two years... until I ran out of excuses..
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Welcome LLBH 
I think pretty much all of us have some failed attempts at stopping behind us. We all eventually came to realise that we couldn't do it alone.
Look around, read, there's lots of good tips on how to stay sober here.
You're in the right place
I think pretty much all of us have some failed attempts at stopping behind us. We all eventually came to realise that we couldn't do it alone.
Look around, read, there's lots of good tips on how to stay sober here.
You're in the right place
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