Quick pep talk needed
Ok, I have to go there unfortunately.
I'm gonna order coke. I'm gonna have a pizza and gorge on sugary drinks. Feeling good about it already. First time I've used this app. A life saver! My phone is almost out of battery so apologies if I go silent.
THANK YOU ALL!! Sincerely!
I'm gonna order coke. I'm gonna have a pizza and gorge on sugary drinks. Feeling good about it already. First time I've used this app. A life saver! My phone is almost out of battery so apologies if I go silent.
THANK YOU ALL!! Sincerely!
Hope you are well. I hate to see those have-to-meet-friends-at-the bar posts, especially from those in early recovery. And the dreaded, "I have to go there..." as if there was no choice.
There's always a choice. Just like there is a choice to drink or not. Hope you can choose not.
There's always a choice. Just like there is a choice to drink or not. Hope you can choose not.
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Okay...you are eating..cool. I have had no issue in a pub if I have some purpose for being there. I can sip my soda and await my food and chit chat...I can eat and chit chat...but then...later...when it's just sitting round making small talk ..it can get a little more anxiety inducing.
Just have an exit plan. Have your car keys handy or whatever. LEAVE...bolt...if it gets hard. Remember..exiting the situation is the answer...NOT drinking.
Just have an exit plan. Have your car keys handy or whatever. LEAVE...bolt...if it gets hard. Remember..exiting the situation is the answer...NOT drinking.
don't let that AV trick ya, Jack.... sneaky bugger, that one. But remember that you're stonger, more clever, and WE HAVE GOT YOUR BACK.
So check back in and bail the scenario if you have to.
A simple "Hey, listen guys I'm sorry but I'm suddenly not feeling all that well. I'm gonna call it a night" is always a good backup plan if things are getting a little too hairy in your head.
So check back in and bail the scenario if you have to.
A simple "Hey, listen guys I'm sorry but I'm suddenly not feeling all that well. I'm gonna call it a night" is always a good backup plan if things are getting a little too hairy in your head.
All good tonight. Had cokes and ate. Focussed on the music and the conversation for once!
Couldn't have done it without you all so thanks!
I know I should avoid bars but I don't want to stay in alone and I want to see my friends and that's where they generally go.
How'd other people deal with that?
Couldn't have done it without you all so thanks!
I know I should avoid bars but I don't want to stay in alone and I want to see my friends and that's where they generally go.
How'd other people deal with that?
A saying that in my experience has proved correct .... "You sit in the barbers chair long enough, you'll get a haircut."
If they are real friends they will happily meet you elsewhere. An alcoholic in a bar is just asking to pick up a drink. Maybe not today, but eventually. In my experience.
If they are real friends they will happily meet you elsewhere. An alcoholic in a bar is just asking to pick up a drink. Maybe not today, but eventually. In my experience.
All good tonight. Had cokes and ate. Focussed on the music and the conversation for once!
Couldn't have done it without you all so thanks!
I know I should avoid bars but I don't want to stay in alone and I want to see my friends and that's where they generally go.
How'd other people deal with that?
Couldn't have done it without you all so thanks!
I know I should avoid bars but I don't want to stay in alone and I want to see my friends and that's where they generally go.
How'd other people deal with that?
Two things helped: Making it very public that I was not drinking, and being the official designated driver. Which meant I had to stay until the bitter end and then drive stupid boring drunks home when the bars closed LOL but it was a pretty good strategy overall.
Proud of you for not drinking, Jack.
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All good tonight. Had cokes and ate. Focussed on the music and the conversation for once!
Couldn't have done it without you all so thanks!
I know I should avoid bars but I don't want to stay in alone and I want to see my friends and that's where they generally go.
How'd other people deal with that?
Couldn't have done it without you all so thanks!
I know I should avoid bars but I don't want to stay in alone and I want to see my friends and that's where they generally go.
How'd other people deal with that?
Because you are right..you can't sit at home alone. You have to connect with others and build a life. I'm not saying dump your drinking friends but I would make a concerted effort to EXPAND your world...make it bigger. Don't try to do the same old things with the same old people ..sober. Go build new directions and solutions.
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