He fell off the wagon big time last night
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He fell off the wagon big time last night
My H and I had a wedding of mutual friends last night (we are separated, but trying to remain amicable). We decided to sit together with our friends, and keep awkwardness to a minimum for everyone. We'd done this before at a wedding in June, and it had worked out fine.
I'm on the cusp of moving into my apartment--today actually! I just need to get the rest of my clothes over there from my sister's house, where I've been staying for the last 7 months. Its coming along really nicely.
On the way over to the wedding last night, I prayed "Dear God, you know I second guess what I'm doing in ending my marriage and getting my own place. Please make it abundantly clear to me if I'm doing the right thing or not. Please lead me down the path that is best for me."
At the wedding, the bar opened at 4pm. I got a pop (I do drink socially but 4 is too early!) and H ordered a beer. I thought he was trying to force a confrontation, so I didn't say anything. He then proceeded to do shots, drink beer, and get loaded throughout the night. I hung with my girlfriends and pretty much acted as though he wasn't there. I still managed to have a good time; I didn't want it to ruin my night.
I did get out of there early, around 10. H insisted on walking me to my car and we talked for a few minutes. He told me he has been drinking for a few weeks, but just a couple beers here and there, "nothing crazy." According to a friend of mine, after the reception H got blasted drunk and shut down a local bar with a couple of his buddies until 3 am.
So, it seems my prayer was answered. I did ask for 'abundantly' clear, and I suppose that I got it.
I'm on the cusp of moving into my apartment--today actually! I just need to get the rest of my clothes over there from my sister's house, where I've been staying for the last 7 months. Its coming along really nicely.
On the way over to the wedding last night, I prayed "Dear God, you know I second guess what I'm doing in ending my marriage and getting my own place. Please make it abundantly clear to me if I'm doing the right thing or not. Please lead me down the path that is best for me."
At the wedding, the bar opened at 4pm. I got a pop (I do drink socially but 4 is too early!) and H ordered a beer. I thought he was trying to force a confrontation, so I didn't say anything. He then proceeded to do shots, drink beer, and get loaded throughout the night. I hung with my girlfriends and pretty much acted as though he wasn't there. I still managed to have a good time; I didn't want it to ruin my night.
I did get out of there early, around 10. H insisted on walking me to my car and we talked for a few minutes. He told me he has been drinking for a few weeks, but just a couple beers here and there, "nothing crazy." According to a friend of mine, after the reception H got blasted drunk and shut down a local bar with a couple of his buddies until 3 am.
So, it seems my prayer was answered. I did ask for 'abundantly' clear, and I suppose that I got it.
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Yes. That would seem to be the answer.
Oddly wrapped gifts - that is how I heard (read) it expressed in a thread here earlier.
Congrats on the new apartment! You're going to love having your own space, being able to do what you want when you want. I've lived alone for years - don't think I could do it any differently at this point.
Oddly wrapped gifts - that is how I heard (read) it expressed in a thread here earlier.
Congrats on the new apartment! You're going to love having your own space, being able to do what you want when you want. I've lived alone for years - don't think I could do it any differently at this point.
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Oddly wrapped gifts- I like that. I don't really feel angry today..I do feel disappointed. But I do feel a clarity that I was missing before.
He was quacking to an acquaintance of ours too, explaining the situation. "Well I had some issues I had to work on, so I didn't have a drink for 6 months, I went to meetings to figure stuff out. But I'm back on track now!" As he's standing there drinking.
He was quacking to an acquaintance of ours too, explaining the situation. "Well I had some issues I had to work on, so I didn't have a drink for 6 months, I went to meetings to figure stuff out. But I'm back on track now!" As he's standing there drinking.
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Oh no... I cant sleep with other men?? Bear with me a second while I show all my boy toys to the door. I didnt realize! Lol
Seriously though, thanks to all for listening. I resisted the urge to contact him earlier, and am glad I didnt. I am sitting among boxes at my new apt. Feeling at peace though. ♡
Seriously though, thanks to all for listening. I resisted the urge to contact him earlier, and am glad I didnt. I am sitting among boxes at my new apt. Feeling at peace though. ♡
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Funny how our questions are usually answered if we know how to listen.
I'm glad you have your new place.
Enjoy your space and boy toys
If you have any to spare, post them to me will you?
I'm turning 50 this month
and could use some excitement in my middle age.
I'm glad you have your new place.
Enjoy your space and boy toys
If you have any to spare, post them to me will you?
I'm turning 50 this month
and could use some excitement in my middle age.
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Hawkeye, whats your type? I'll send one right along to you! Lol
H and I still haven't talked. Its hard not to but I know I need to stay strong and keep moving forward. What would I even say at this point? Would there even be a point? I doubt it.
H and I still haven't talked. Its hard not to but I know I need to stay strong and keep moving forward. What would I even say at this point? Would there even be a point? I doubt it.
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Originally Posted by Brave 
Hawkeye, whats your type? I'll send one right along to you! Lol
H and I still haven't talked. Its hard not to but I know I need to stay strong and keep moving forward. What would I even say at this point? Would there even be a point? I doubt it.
H and I still haven't talked. Its hard not to but I know I need to stay strong and keep moving forward. What would I even say at this point? Would there even be a point? I doubt it.
Must have own car and be able to legally drive it
Cutting of own food a plus. . . "
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Originally Posted by dandylion
Hawkeye....I always thought that a good minimum standard was---the ability to take on oxygen and give off carbon dioxide.
You sound awfully demanding.....
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You sound awfully demanding.....
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My state has much stricter guidelines
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
"Ambulatory with a good sense of humor.
Must have own car and be able to legally drive it
Cutting of own food a plus. . . "
Must have own car and be able to legally drive it
Cutting of own food a plus. . . "
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