Trust was destroyed
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Trust was destroyed
I have begun to break it down to one thing. TRUST!
This I posted in another thread but it seems others who may not be visiting that thread may find my epiphany helpful.
It doesn't matter how much you love or care for another person, how much you want their lives to be full of good. If you can't trust them, the relationship cannot succeed. What living with someone you can't trust does is devastating and soul killing.
As I move around the boards, seeing what friends and family members are dealing with there seems to be some continuous streams off events and issues that I am reducing down..
What can I do?
If only I?
They were doing good, then I took them back.
They say it is my fault.
What am I missing?
What is missing on the non side is trust. Addiction turns that person into something else. They become the drug of choice. Each substance seems to have it's own personality. How can we trust that?
It calls to them like the sirens of the sea every day. Do we really believe we can battle that? We live in a shifting paradigm yet continue to try what worked yesterday.
Some days the siren call is faint and we see our loved one surface momentarily. The joy we feel is fleeting, and even trust in ourselves also is assaulted and brokenness fills the air.
This may sound so down, but for me, it is the way to acceptance of my being powerless drugs or alcohol. Any thoughts are welcome.
This I posted in another thread but it seems others who may not be visiting that thread may find my epiphany helpful.
It doesn't matter how much you love or care for another person, how much you want their lives to be full of good. If you can't trust them, the relationship cannot succeed. What living with someone you can't trust does is devastating and soul killing.
As I move around the boards, seeing what friends and family members are dealing with there seems to be some continuous streams off events and issues that I am reducing down..
What can I do?
If only I?
They were doing good, then I took them back.
They say it is my fault.
What am I missing?
What is missing on the non side is trust. Addiction turns that person into something else. They become the drug of choice. Each substance seems to have it's own personality. How can we trust that?
It calls to them like the sirens of the sea every day. Do we really believe we can battle that? We live in a shifting paradigm yet continue to try what worked yesterday.
Some days the siren call is faint and we see our loved one surface momentarily. The joy we feel is fleeting, and even trust in ourselves also is assaulted and brokenness fills the air.
This may sound so down, but for me, it is the way to acceptance of my being powerless drugs or alcohol. Any thoughts are welcome.
Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
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It doesn't matter how much you love or care for another person, how much you want their lives to be full of good. If you can't trust them, the relationship cannot succeed. What living with someone you can't trust does is devastating and soul killing.
But a valuable one.
Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Originally Posted by Firefall 
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