tiredmum

I dont know what do do and i feel like im about to have nervous breakdown.

He was staying at his sisters for a few days i asked him to mind our kids while i was at my last shift on tues and its thurs and he wont go!

He said hes not leaving until the 27th and thats over 2 weeks away!!

And so much for his being sorry and understanding i need space, i brough our son home from nursery at 2 and he was passed out on sofa.

Ive pleaded with him to leave and he wont- i duno what to do and im snapping at our kids coz im really at the end of my tether

biminiblue

Get legal advice. Call the police department and ask what your options are.

Blossom717

Hugs.
Biminiblue is right, get some legal advice. I hope theres a resolution for you!

tiredmum

Im scared of his reaction if i do that

SparkleKitty

Then please call the DV hotline. You should not be frightened in your own home. They can advise you of your next SAFEST steps.

lillamy

I agree with Sparklekitty. Call a DV hotline and ask them what you can do. I've lived with being afraid in my own home, and nobody should ever have to do that. (((hugs)))

meggem

I give you so much credit for being so angry that he won't leave. That says alot about how you feel about yourself. You drew a line in the sand. That's awesome.

Take advantage of your angry energy and let it guide you through a few steps.

I did a few of the big steps while I was still fuming mad and I'm so glad I did. You can do this!

Wahine

Tiredmum, I have so much sympathy for you. I am filing for dv. I have seen a L. I have talked to the police. In the state I live in there is nothing I can do. My stbx AH is a narcissist. His sense of entitlement and controlling behavior is making my kids and me sick. If you succeed, let us know.

dandylion

tiredmum, are you willing to leave and go elsewhere until he leaves (27th)?

dandylion

atalose

And there lies one of the many reasons it's said: alcoholics don't have relationships, they take hostages.

Call a DV hotline and ask what can be done and most importantly your fear of his reaction or ask a family or friend if you can spend some time with them until your nerves settle a bit and some healthy actions on your part can be taken.

Robert777

Is it his house or yours?

tiredmum

Hi all. Thank you all for your kind words and concern. Im sorry i havnt been on, I suppose ive been zoning out- it seems to have been my best way of coping.

Good news though- hes moving out today! The sadness has gone, it was temporialy replaced with anger and now i can see the light at the end of the tunnel im feeling excited at the prospect of relief!!!

The only sadness i feel (atm- i do realise it may hit me like a tonne of bricks later) is for what could have been, but then i remind myself of how he cruely told our dd7 he was moving out and then i remember and know im doing the right thing.

So fingers crossed for a smooth move and i can start my birthday tomorrow with a fresh start!!

honeypig

tiredmum, best birthday wishes to you! I'm so glad you've made some steps towards changing your life.

I hope the move out goes well--do you have some help in place just in case it doesn't? I've seen suggestions here for similar situations that mention having all his stuff boxed up and out in the yard or garage. That way, it minimizes the time he is there and there is no need to let him in the house.

Please stay in touch and let us know how things went and how you're doing.

Wishing you strength and clarity.